09-10-2010, 09:38 AM
Join Date: Dec 2009
| | Should I help my cheating wife out financially?
I have a financial question:
So my wife cheated on me over a few months and when I found out I made her move out to her own place.
She has 2 small jobs that don't pay much and is looking for a fulltime job now. She will also qualify for state benefits but they have no come through yet. 1 of her employers has also failed to pay her this week.
So she has asked if I can pay her rent due Monday. My lawyer says I shouldn't pay her anything else as we must show when we divorce that she has been supporting herself. So financially this hurts me in more ways than 1.
1 minute she is attacking me with ridiculous accusations and the next she is asking for money (literally moments between).
I also don't have a lot of money due to lawyers bills, but I am a high earner and can afford to dip into overdrafts.
In the divorce she will get thousands from me but that is months off.
Options I can see are:
1) Give her a lump of the money she will get in the divorce anyway
2) Don't give her anything at all, tell her to p**s off!
3) Give her this months rent and ask for it to be paid back, or not paid back
Her life has completely fallen apart since the separation so the decision is between
feeling sorry for her, being the bigger person, smoothing our relations
giving her nothing because she cheated with at least 2 men over the past 6 months, STILL lies about it and hasn't changed her attitude towards me at all