figuringitout

So this is my first thread and I have gotten much clarity from reading others the last few weeks. I am hoping for some advice with my situation. Being recently separated for the second time in a 15 year marriage I am thinking this very well maybe it. Time will tell. But now what's different is that I have a husband that is not in the greatest health. He has managable medical issues but is kinda naive about his health. We have two teenagers and I have always been the one who oversaw his health issues. Well now that he and I have realized we just can't be together I worry. I found out today I am going to have to pay more than I can truly afford to maintain his healthcare. I can't just dump him but he seems to think it's no big deal if he goes without. I am already paying for maintaining the livelyhood of myself and our kids without any support from him. I don't know what to do. He makes me crazy. He's so lost I don't know how to deal. I go into everyday trying to keep our family afloat and he is on an island with himself. Realizing I can't make him do anything do I let him self destruct infront of our kids?

DanF

I'm guessing that your husband is in his late 30s or 40s. His personal issues are not your responsibility even if you stay together. He is a grown man and can make his own decisions regarding his life.

figuringitout

Very true. It's just difficult when I think about our kids seeing him go through this. He is actually older, in his 50s. I do still care about him. I just want him to be happy and healthy. Whether it involves me or not. Does that sound nuts?