11-29-2010, 10:37 AM
Join Date: Sep 2010
| | Re: Moving forward
I was very touched at reading your story here. You have shown such amazing strength and understanding throughout this ordeal. Do not worry about future partners for yourself ... there is not a single thing you've said here that will deter them!
Time apart from our children is the worst thing imaginable. The very first time my H took our baby after our separation I cried for hours. I spent the entire weekend in a complete daze. Eventually that turned to mild anxiety. And, no, I function well hen he is away from me. It sounds dumb to say it gets easier with time, but it truly does. I mean, I always miss my son when I'm without him, but I am okay no because I know he is safe and happy with his Daddy too.
I cannot offer a lot of advice on moving forward. I hate to tell you that I believe that it will remain difficult as along as you are living together. Being together each day simply makes it harder to move forward and properly grieve for your relationship. But, slowly, over time, you'll begin doing more for yourself and you'll find the sadness is a little less every day. I know that, again, it is not the greatest advice, but it is the only truth I've found throughout my own situation.
Good luck to you and your family ...