Re: separation is killing me, help!
today at individual counseling, my counselor said something about beth being co-dependent. holy crap that scared me. he went on to identify her natural father (abandonment) her step dad (alcoholic) her mother (enabler) he nailed it, right down the line. said she was drawn to traits she obseved growing up. knowing her story, i feel so bad for her. i want her to be happy. he said if i fulfilled the roles without displaying the negatives (alky, abandonment, etc.) then she would be happy. and when she tries to "take power" (thru controlling her environment, just offer to "do it for her" (she has done almost everything in our relationship, includung buying the houses, arranging leases, all the big stuff, because she's felt she had to (i guess an alcoholic isn't able to). does this sound psycho-babbly to y'all or does it make sense? have you been in counseling and gotten a read like this. by the way, he too said i should relax, the evidence proves she wants to be with me. uh, ok. ps-we had dinner at the restaurant where my 16yr old daughter (protector of mom) works. great time, but she was a little cranky cuz she was tired and hungry. invited me in to her house afterwards for a donut. we kinda got a giggle outta some sexual innuendo about that. yay!
separated, honoring wife and family daily, she deserves the best me i can give her.
4 kids g18, g12, g11, b7