01-04-2011, 12:27 PM
Join Date: Dec 2010
| | Re: Living together while separated
Originally Posted by emotionalwreck
waterfall: I do not have an advice but feel your heartache and actually feel if from the opposite perspective. Meaning...I am the one who wants to get out of the marriage and I know my husband is/will feel exactly like you. I too wish we can stay in home until things are to a final close, yet, I know that is honestly unrealstic. Especially when one is still so much into wanting and trying to make it work. I do not come from a family of any divorcee's so for me to take the first step is so devasting to me but I need to be happy and I cannot let materialistic items be the replacement. It will only resurface again in time.
Not sure what I expected to give you by this post other than even though I maybe on your spouses 'side' of things, I completely feel for your worries. That's definately something I am not looking forward to having to cope with.
Thanks for the response...actually I am the one who wants out and initiated everything. The husband wants things to work out. I've tried for a year with counseling and trying to see if I could get over what he did. But, I cannot. It's just the splitting and the splitting of the kids that kills me. I know I don't want to be with him but my priority is the kids. So...to keep the kids under one roof is to separate while living together for some time. Just scares me what will happen and what will be next.