Re: 3 months now not much hope
Your "pathetic love sick heart broken story" isn't so different from mine...she left after 25 years, I chased her like a sick puppy dog, realized that didn't work and then gave her space...I went a month without calling her, emailing her, no contact at all unless I had to get info from her or she called me. We have 3 children ourselves, 2 adults and a 16 year old so we had to have some contact, but it was extremely minimal.
I took that time and worked on myself...got myself in better health, read some self-help books on relationships and communication, started posting and reading here, read from the bible...took time to be a better dad...I focused on myself--worked on beating my alcohol addiction. Sure I was hurting, not sleeping, stressing myself out on what I could be doing, should I call her...being in limbo and not knowing what she was thinking/wanting is terrible, my mind was creating all sorts of scenerios of what was going on, I even convinced myself at some point she was with another man...wasn't the case!
Anyways, when she left, the more I chased her, the more distant she became, even to the point of having an appointment to see a lawyer...once I gave her space, she calmed down...and as I continued to give her space, she has sought me out more and more...the less I talk to her, the more contact she wants...
3 months ago when she left, I would have told you our chances or getting back together were next to nil, today--I think we have an excellent chance of reconnciliation...Church and faith are going to have to be a key component in this, which is something I have to work on, God has always been with me, but never my focus--my wife says that has got to change!
so, your story is not so different from any others here, no less pathetic...We all wish you didn't have to suffer, that you could hold your true love again, forever...
Give her that space, seek out counseling for yourself...be a great Dad and a better person...work on your weaknesses, perfect your strengths...do whatever you can to make things right...and in the end, if things don't work out, it won't be because you didn't try...you have to live with yourself whether your wife comes back or not, so work on making things right for yourself now!