01-23-2011, 09:00 AM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: Grandbaby coming soon...
Originally Posted by DjF
As said in other post, my wife and I have been separated since before Thanksgiving, she is living in an apartment with my daughter who is expecting our first grandchild in the next few weeks...
My wife and I are making great progress toward getting back together, and this may seem selfish, but how do I keep this progress going without it getting swept aside when the grandchild is born? My wife will be there helping with the day to day care of the grandchild, taking care of my daughter, and while I appreciate this, I don't want the progress we have made in our relationship swept aside and put on hold...
My daughter has some hold on her mom, manipulates her (the other day when my wife spent the night with me, my daughter called constantly wanting my wife to go back to the apartment) and I can't fight it right now...I haven't seen my wife in a week because she doesn't want to stray too far from the daughter...my daughter doesn't want to see me because she views me as a wedge between her mom and her...I just don't know how to battle this without seeming selfish....but I don't want our healing to be put on hold...am I being selfish?
when the time comes, I'll put the daughter in her place, but it isn't obviously now...
Itís really tough when a daughter or son truly interferes in a marriage. My younger sonís 35, heís mother never cut the apron strings and his interference was just way over the top. They talk about stuff they should never have talked about.
It is a very difficult situation. I gave up on my wife 12 months ago and just yesterday I gave up on my son. Itís tough but some things just are and thereís nothing that can be done about it.
They are now living together in an apartment, heís 35, sheís 59 and itís unbelievable.
I hope you find a way where I couldnít.