Originally Posted by pirouline
@mslonely...my h and i talked on fb just a few minutes ago..i finally got to the bottom of it...he said that i rely on him too much which in turn makes me a grouch and not be able to take care of myself....
and i said...i know, i realize that..that can be changed...and i asked him if he is ready to move back in and he said "not yet"....
i also asked him if he was going to date other people while he figures himself out..and he said "no" i think he finally snapped that day we had to take our daughter for an eye check up....he'd often had to take a half day off from work to take me to where i needed to be....
so keep fingers crossed for me that this might work out...
pirouline, don't lose your hope.
Now you know what's bugging him, so you might need to focus on his issue & resolve it with communication.
First of all, show him your understanding & appreciation, then show him hope:
Appreciating what he has done to support the family & he's really helping you a great deal especially you can't drive, that caused him many inconveniences when he's busy at work but he has to take a half day off...etc. Show him your sincere gratitude.
Give him hope:
Tell him you will take a driving lesson & get a driving license so in the future, he won't need to be interrupted when he's busy at work.
Tell him you love him & he means the whole world to you.
You're very sorry for the inconvenience you caused, but you assure him that you're willing to work things out.
Tell him you're looking for driving lessons on the internet already, ask him if he knows any good driving lessons, so he could give you some ideas.
Last, invite him for dinner.
To ask him to return home, you need to show him love in actions.
Firstly appreication his good work & understanding the troubles he had with you.
Second, you want to make a difference to ease the burden on his shoulders by registering yourself in a driving lesson.
Last, warm invitation and prepare for his return:
You will prepare a very good dinner with the food he likes very much, so you would love to invite him to come home & have the dinner with kids.
Tell him you will wait for his return because the house is clean, dinning table is set and food is warm. You & the kids already miss him a great deal.