Wife left me for another man...
Hey this is my first post, and felt the need to vent, seek guidance, prayers whatever...I'm not completely sure!
A little background, I have been married for almost 5 years now...and I love my wife dearly. She was my queen, and I treated her like it. When we met, she already had a child from a previous relationship (who I've raised since he was 1...bio dad not in the picture, she's not even really sure who he is...) He is my son! Regardless of DNA, he is now 7 and unaware of anyone else except for me. We also have a daughter together who is 4, she's my absolute heart.
Shortly after my daughter was born, one year into our marriage she engaged in an adulterous relationship which lasted almost 9 months. I found out about the affair and was crushed...She left for about a week and left both children with me. I continued to tell her how much I loved her and begged her to come back (probably my first mistake). She eventually came back, and we worked it out...I thought.
Some time had gone by...and the housing market tanked, and I suggested we buy a house on the cheap. We found a seemingly perfect house, in a good neighborhood and around the corner from my parents. I continued to do as much for her as I could, I got the kids ready for school, cooked dinner, served the family, helped with homework...and I was happy to do it...but my wife seemed unhappy. Fast forward two years later...and two days before Christmas she expresses this unhappiness and says she wants a divorce, she took money from out joint account and got an apartment in another city...again she left. The kids are here with me for school and go to her for a night midweek and weekends.
After dropping the kids off one day (two weeks after she left) I noticed men's clothing around the apartment. She confessed to seeing her best friends brother (whom see dated in Jr. HS) She wants the kids to go live with her (currently with me) and give me weekends!?!?!?!?
I've tried to explain to her, that I've been the primary care giver for the majority of the marriage, and she's is prone to impulsivity, anger, and poor decision making...I love her dearly and would still take her back, for better or for worse...but I feel we are heading toward a messy divorce...