Long story short, over the past year and with the added stress with my new job, Iíve been yelling a lot.
My wife left me towards the end of July. She ended getting a restraining order.
Since then, Iíve taken numerous anger management classes, parenting classes and been with a therapist weekly since she has left. All of these have been NOT court ordered.
Iím not making excuses, we have been arguing a lot, but NOTHING physical. I know words can hurt the same as physical altercations. Being in a Christian marriage, there was never any cursing.
With the PRO, she allowed me what her attorney called, ďExcellent visititation rightsĒ to my children during this period. I heard her attorney say to my wife that most of her other clients donít allow visitation rights that liberal right after a permanent restraining order has been ordered.
A few days I get a call from my wife saying for me to hold on and she allowed me to talk to my kids for as long as I wanted. After I was done, she said they would call me every night.
My family is telling me that she has noticed the changes Iíve been making and there might be a glimmer of hope in our marriage.
My question, after the kidís calls and my wife says to me that they will call tomorrow, can I inquire if the kids need anything? Can I ask if she needs cash or anything for support? What would be appropriate in the brief 3 seconds I get to actually talk to my wife each night before we hang up the phone? I want her to know that I care about her and the kids, but I donít want to push it.
I have an order of no contact to her, but she can contact me whenever.
What can I say to her in that 5 second pause to let her know that Iím here for her?
Is asking about money an OK thing to say? Kidís clothes?
I swore to myself that I would not be an every other weekend father and I will do WHATEVER it takes to make it right again.
May I get your advice?
I also created a blog about this. Kevin and My Family