02-08-2011, 02:38 PM
Join Date: Dec 2010
| | Re: Advice on what to do going forward
I did find out that my husband was upset (???) that I said that I wanted the actual physical separation to happen sooner rather than later. He said, I thought you didn't want this to happen. I said I don't, but having you here in the house and not wanting to touch me or be with me, is making me crazy. IF you are going to leave and I can't stop it, then just go. SO far, he has gone along with the plan but isn't really making any moves on his own. I also don't see him leaning my way either. He tolerates my good by kisses, answers my cell calls and text messages, but doesn't initiate much unless it has to do with the kids. Partly I think because he believes he sends me the wrong message if he is the one initiating contact, but also because I think he is afraid he will contradict himself if he does want to spend time with me. Does that make sense? I think his "counselor" has a plan with him and he is following it cause he thinks he won't be the bad guy if he is just doing what she says to do. The counselor isn't even a licensed psychologist or clinical social worker. He has a lot of issues he should be working on and instead, he has built it all around our marriage. Gonna crash and burn soon. The next thing he is supposed to be doing is finding a place to live, then we will tell the kids and family, but so far, no word on the move out.