Wow, are you living my life? Except my H, doesn't take the kids he comes over to my house and wants us to go out as a family...
My H was also emotionally and verbally abusive, even now I get called every name under the sun, and it's all my fault, he wants a divorce, why would he want to be with someone like me... until he calms down of course.. then I get 'Can we just see how we go' talk... We've been together 15 years, I wonder how we made it through this long.
We haven't had sex since a week after he left, which is now 3.5 months ago, I haven't tried it on and neither has he.
My H won't consider councilling, he has aspergers, adhd and suffers from depression at times, and wont even go to the Doctors, he see's it as weak I imagine, he won't even tell me why he won't go... apart from, he doesn't see the point right now, due to him not knowing if he wants this marriage or not.
On V day, I didn't get anything, apart from a text saying Happy V Day, but I did get some roses from someone (still don't know who) and he did seem very put out, last night he went out with a friend and I said to him, whilst we are seperated are we being 100% faithful to one another?.. He said Yes. I don't know if he now fears that someone else is interested in me and I am getting on with my life, and I'm not going to be waiting on him forever or what?!
I sent him a msg this morning saying 'We miss you (we have 3 children also) have a nice day, looking forward to Friday'
Got nothing in return, I was trying to do something positive, but I wonder why I bother! And maybe I should just give up!
Wish we could read what was going through their tiny brains!