02-19-2011, 06:30 AM
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Wilmington North carolina
| | Confused
Hello all. I just joined this morning and have read alot, so I thought I would also post for advice. I have been seperated for 13 months now and married for 17,it sucks being seperated but what can I do. The reason we are seperated is that I had a serious emotional affair for years she was my best friend. I see now that is was stupid of me but I have to move forward now, I have not talked to this person in 8 months and I plan on never talking to her again. Another problem I have is i am a very angry and jealous person I never physically assulted her never would but verbally yes. We also have two children with this marrige. During the seperation she has spent time with a friend a guy from her home state spent a week with him in the mountains, that set me off damn did it. But looking at that should I have said she is moving on I should also, I have not seen anyone at all in the 13 months.
Here is the biggie after about 11 months I asked her could I move back in and she said yes but all it is going to be is your going to help with the kids and the bills. I sleep on the couch we have not had sex kissed or anything she also makes sure that when she changes clothes the door is locked. I am wondering am I a fool here thinking that if I moved back in, in time would this work it self out or am I just here to be a roomate. So confused with all of this. And yes is the answer I do still love her but I feel that she does not. Also she will no talk about us at all. Any suggestions. Thanks