02-20-2011, 11:23 PM
Join Date: Apr 2008
| | Re: Telling Co-Workers and others
It is always somewhat of an awkward subject to talk about but if you feel comfortable if somehow it comes up on the office chit chat maybe you can mention it. If someone asks about your wife, you can say as a matter of fact, we are seperated at the moment & trying to work things out, etc. .
As a few have mentioned above, most people will be supportive of you. I know for me, I struggled with trying to keep up the cherade of being happily married as long as I could. But in the end once I started telling people it felt much better to not be living the "lie". And in my situation, everyone was supportive - I was afraid they would judge me. Also when I opened up, people shared situation about themselves or someone else they knew going through tough times & helped to know that I wasn't the only one.
I originally kept quiet as well because I still had that hope that we would work things out & didn't want others to know in case we were able to reconcile. Sounds like you are pretty sure the marriage is over but maybe if you are still holding that hope - that is holding you back from telling others?
Only you know & only you know what is going to feel most comfortable to you. But is is probably not making this elaborate scheme to cover things up that some co-workers may already have a hunch about anyways.
Believe it or not, once you start telling people, the easier it gets. It also gets you moving in the direction of acceptance that things are over & moving forward with you life.