My wife, daughter and little granddaughter have been out of town visiting (showing off the baby), for the last week or so…
Saturday night, wife and I stayed up late chatting online, our first real discussion on working out the issues in over 2 months…Sunday I emailed her thanking her for taking the time to talk to me and with me...I invited her to go for a walk the following weekend..I didn't hear from her and feared our chat session wasn’t effective…there wasn’t any progress…
Fast forward to last evening…my cell phone rings and it’s my wife…they had to leave relative’s place a day early due to illness (MiL came down with the flu and they didn’t want my grandbaby to catch it)…so, they were headed back to KC and wanted to stop by and pick some things up…okay, works for me…so, I stay up later than normal…got to feed my grandbaby for the first time, saw her with her eyes wide open for my first time (she likes to sleep in grandpa’s arms)…and, my wife chose to stay and spend the night with me.
We cuddled, I could hear my heart pounding just from being with her again, from how unexpected this was…we tried to both sleep, but that wasn’t going to happen, so we made slow, passionate love (YES!!!)…and then cuddled some more…I didn’t sleep much, but sleep I can catch up on, time wasted sleeping while being with her right now, will always be lost!
I still don’t know if our chat Saturday did anything good…last night was just about being together again, it may never happen again, I hold no promises that we will move forward, or when if we do…I just know, last night she and I both felt loved again…and that can be nothing but good!
So I spent today tired, a good tired…a type of tired I can deal with and something I haven’t felt in a long time…
Today, again, I have had Fleetwood Mac’s “Landside” constantly playing on the 8-track player in my mind..
Well, I've been afraid of changin'
'Cause I've built my life around you
But time makes bolder, children get older
I'm getting older too, well, I'm getting older too
finally, also today I received an email from her thanking me for the wonderful evening...saying what a great grandpa I am...maybe the ice is melting some!
Dan
That sounds so cute and great. I think she is on her way back - I don't think she would have wanted to spend the night with you if she not love and want to be with you. Best of luck!!
from what I understand of women (and that is very little) sex is the things that is going to happen last, I would say the ice is melting, but hey, what would I know !!!
well, when I got home from work tonight, she was still here...we talked a bit, nothing serious, but counseling was brought up again...she said that she wanted to spend more time out her with our son and me...I told her this was still her home, nothing has changed...
I told her that finacially, I was strapped...living from paycheck to paycheck...sometimes with less than $50 left for a week before the next paycheck...I think that caught her off guard...(we've lived a pretty good life and I'm trying to hang on to the house we built 14 years ago out in the country...)...
I think we have taken a step forward in a long journey to healing...the next step may not happen tomorrow or next week...but at least we moved forward!!!
OMG DjF...i needed some good news in our little amazing group...so much pain lately...i lived through your post...sounded so amazing i cried...i still am.
God bless her heart for giving you so much peace ,even if it's for 2 days...
Fingers crossed for you
wow...that is so awesome to hear!! I agree with vivea....I feel like I know some of you and can feel the pain each one of us are experiencing. Take it one day at a time....dont think about yesterday....dont think about tomorrow.....think only of today!!! Lucky you!!!!
I think I scored some more points tonight...during the basketball game she said that she wanted to spend the night at our home again, but had to go back to the apartment to help with the grandbaby...but then said she would be back out in the morning so she could take the boy to a meeting before school (I have an eraly meeting at school)...I said it's stupid for you to be up half the night with the baby and then get up early to pick up our son...why don't I take you home, drive your car back and then the boy could drive my truck to school and I'll take your car to my work...you can sleep in and I'll stop by after school and pick you up...(Kinda wordy, but it meant she gets to sleep in which she loves!!!)
so's I dropped her off at her apartment, she gave me a few nice kisses and it was getting heavy...and suddenly she jumped out of the car saying goodbye...I think I'm getting her confused!!! I think I'm winning her heart but her mind is lagging behind...
maybe it's time I hit her up with flowers and then go back into stealth mode....hmmmmm....
maybe it's time I hit her up with flowers and then go back into stealth mode....hmmmmm....
My advice no flowers, yet. Maybe others will weigh in on this. I think you should play it cool, do exactly what you are doing, don't over do like you owe her for re-establishing a connection.
You welcome it but you are giving as much as she is to getting things back on track. It is a nice gesture but i think if you get her flowers at this point it may be too overwhelming and too egger.
My advice no flowers, yet. Maybe others will weigh in on this. I think you should play it cool, do exactly what you are doing, don't over do like you owe her for re-establishing a connection.
You welcome it but you are giving as much as she is to getting things back on track. It is a nice gesture but i think if you get her flowers at this point it may be too overwhelming and too egger.
No need to get bonkers with "play it cool" stuff but why mess with something that's working? Don't fiddle with what you're doing. Go plant rosebushes or bolted broccoli or something instead.
Unexpected evening/night... 
