I have been fearful to sleep because I would wake up with him on the end of the couch bed staring at me. ... He promised he would not hurt me, but I don't know because he is mentally distraught and unstable.
I don't want him accusing me of kidnapping our son. A friend of mine says to tell him nothing about where I am moving to, to move on a day he is at work, and set an agreed-upon place and time to meet with our son (like a Starbucks).
I have a hard time digesting that my husband is nuts, but judging by his actions since I told him Jan. 11 that I want to go, he has me worried.
TRUST YOUR GUT INSTINCTS. And AGAIN ... call your attorney! Promises? Jeesh ... the guy is freaking you out by staring at you while you're sleeping. Talk is cheap and he will probably say anything in the hopes of manipulating you into staying. The more he sees your resolve, the more likely he is to pull out all stops and get physical. I've been there, and I know that when I walked, I made sure he knew as little as possible.
This really hit home with me, because as my marriage deteriorated, I spent more and more time in the finished basement watching t.v. while the hubby was upstairs on the main floor drinking and on the top floor sleeping in the master bedroom. That is, until I awoke around 4 a.m. one morning ... The light was still on, but I think I had turned off the set. Anyway, husband was sitting on the other couch just staring at me. YIKES!! The look on his face was a portrait of studied contempt. His eyes looked dead to me, but I could feel the anger coming in my direction. Scared the heck outta me, but I didn't let him know that at the time; just told him to get his azz off the couch, go to bed, and get out of my space.
The last year of my marriage (or should I say, incarceration), I slept in the spare bedroom with the door locked, and my cell phone within arm's reach.
Take the promises he makes to you with a HUGE grain of salt.