II've called him, breaking my heart but it just rang to voice mail, so left him msgs, just tried to call again & he's turned his phone off.
My husband does that all the time.
Yeah, I know all about having a bad day. Sometimes your luck just doesn't go right. Sucks...Seems the last few months I had streaks of bad luck, one after the other.
Don't worry. It'll get better. Chances are your husband would just add to your misery, not make it better.
Once I made the mistake of going over to my husband's house after a really bad day. I just wanted to vent, to have a friend console me, to get a hug and have someone say "Don't worry about it, it'll get better." He didn't want to hear about it. Told me I was on my own and I had to deal with my own problems. Then he started tell me how I should grow up, etc, etc. Made me go from feeling bad to absolutely miserable.
So basically with it went from bad to worse. Nice, eh?
I'm sure he'll give you some excuse for why he shut off his phone. His battery probably ran out and he was stuck in a desert trying to fashion a phone out of cacti and bird bones. For the love of God, don't believe him!
YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS!
Yep, I hear that too. For the past two days my son has been trying to call my husband because he has been having problems with his computer. My husband promised my son he'd pick up when he saw his number come up but he doesn't. He often didn't pick up the phone with me even though I KNOW he got my messages and texts. He just "didn't want to". Doesn't feel he "should have to". I used to be stupid enough to actually GO OVER his house to see if he was OK when he did that.
When my son finally got him on the phone (after TWO days of leaving messages!) my husband told he'd been "napping" and/or "didn't hear it." What if there had been an emergency? I tell my husband that time and time again but it never changes.
Oh, he always has an an excuse. Sometimes it's that his battery ran out. Or he didn't hear it. He turned it off "by mistake", blah blah blah.
I wonder how HE would've felt if I had done the same thing when he called me at 6 am the day his father died? Or when he called me at midnight, waking me up from a deep sleep, when he fell down and knocked himself out and was all disoriented and scared and THEN proceeded to beg me to come over to his house? (Which I did!) How would he have liked being put to voicemail? Well, maybe next time he'll find out!
Now I just leave him a message and text him that I left the message and then if I have to, I'll proceed to "drop over"..which he hates. I then inform him that I DID call him, but he didn't answer the phone and that it's on his voicemail. Then he looks sheepish and gives the usual excuse. Now I don't call him much anyway. Mostly to arrange to drop off and pick up my son and tell him what time I'll be dropping by. I never call to "talk" anymore. Those days are over.
I know things are bad and you need emotional support but you are going to have to find it elsewhere. Your husband is not only NOT there for you, he's making it worse!
Perhaps you can find a support group or turn to family, friends, etc. You can't depend on your husband and you have to learn to wean yourself off him during "normal" and "good" situations so that when things go bad you don't turn to him. You don't want to have to depend on him for anything!
It's a harsh reality, but a necessary one. I feel your pain.