Re: I cheated and regret it...
I agree with FOL. This is harsh and not helpful to you so don't read if you are not prepared. I applaud your wife for getting rid of you so resolutely. She is obviously a good woman with enough self respect and love of her children and her brother cut out a cancer that invaded a good family. Getting rid of you will get them on the way to recovery.
You could have cheated on her with a stranger, or waited till after the baby at least, or get a prostitute but you could not deny yourself pleasure of humiliating her and HER BROTHER. It is interesting how you wrote it but, that's what you did. This was a member of your pregnant wife's family and you are the type of person who could not stop yourself from such a lowly act of humiliation and betrayal, while she was having your child at the same time.
Why do you want back in, why would they want to look at you for the years to come? Why do you want to inflict them with the constant pain of your presence? Get out of their lives and let them heal.You really think that she is immature in her decision to protect her kids from an amoral man. What does that make you, you destroyed the stabilty of two families, both involving your wifes family and you risked your own unborn child by putting this stress on the mother so you could sow your wild oats like a man. Can she be blamed for wanting to protect her children from a man who placed so little value on them. Who knows, you may get the urge to chase a little tail and leave them home alone.
I think you are pissed that your wife knew you were a throw away man not worth having in her life. It is hard for me and probably your wife to believe that you sudenly developed a concern for your children. Its not really about your children is it, if it were you would not have destroyed their lives, their uncle, aunt and cousins lives so be honest and don't make trouble. What are you worth compared to their lives? Your wife will marry and they will have a decent stepdad, very common scernerio.
Have you cheated before? Have you done other dishonest things? Are you the type of person whobhas spent yourn life concerned with yourself and no one else? If you can do this terrible thing, i I doubt that you are a person that has ever had self-control, compassion and empathy in any areas of your life. You have probably destroyed so many people in the service of you sexual pleasure. You should regret what you lost, you threw away diamonds to grab a piece of coal.
With the quality of woman that your sbx is, as evidenced by the fact that she is cut out a cancer on her family, you were really out of your league anyway. Your regret is because you realize you foolishness at not recognizing the value of what you had. Be honest with youself at lest, if you can manage that, are you sorry for the evil you did or sorry you were found out. You did not confess did you. Did you start feeling sorry only after you were found out? You know you will never be lucky enough to have a woman with the qualities of your wife nor have the blessings of a first born son and second child. Why don't you go chase your penis around and have fun, your free to do that now.
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Last edited by Catherine602; 03-06-2011 at 10:18 PM.