03-13-2011, 07:54 AM
Join Date: Nov 2010
| | Re: need to vent... got beaten in the face..
You talk about all the things you're doing right, and how you're a good husband. But you start by saying you physically abused her. That you "couldn't help it", and it was due to her aggravating ways... You "got with her" when she was 16 and you would have been 22. There's a lot of big alarm bells in my mind right there with regards to your relationship, but I obviously don't know any details.
My first thought is that you should spend some serious time trying to work out your part in the relationship problems. You both share responsibility for where things are at, and your best chance (in my opinion) at getting her back is for you to prove to her that you accept your responsibility and are making progress at fixing your issues. Individual counselling would be my suggestion.
That may mean that she still wants a separation. But why should you be the one to move out of the house/family home in that case? Who's the best one to take care of your child? Can you stay in the home and make adequate arrangements for his care? If so, tell her to move out if she wants a separation/divorce, and work on your issues.
Maybe a reality check for her with regards to being self supporting would do her some good. Making an assumption, if you're the primary income, cut back any support back to a bare minimum. Don't support her bar-hopping lifestyle, complete with iPhone and Internet access. Let her get a taste of what it's going to be like if she does separate/divorce.