Re: Now what? "I love you and I always will..."
He knows you contacted HER. THAT makes you look nuts, to him AND to her.
The OLD him knows you're not nuts, but now you are interfering with his heroin source - the 'feel good' he gets when talking to OW. So now, you are NOT attractive to him and the OLD him no longer matters.
You have kids, right? So you CAN do a Plan A when it involves kid exchanges, school events, or any other opportunity for him to see you. And he NEEDS to see you looking and smelling great, moving on with your life, NOT harping on him to come home, NOT telling him what he's doing wrong. He needs to see you say 'You want OW in your life? Fine. But you don't get her AND me. You choose. For now, I've got my own life to live.'