Now what? "I love you and I always will..."

jenny123 · 05-01-2012, 11:14 AM

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Originally Posted by LonelyNLost

Aww, you are the sweetest. Thank you so much for sharing that. I'm glad you got something from it. If anything, my story shows that you can survive anything, even when you think at first your world is falling apart. I wouldn't wish my experience on anyone, but I also would never change that it happened to me for the world. Could've done without my heart being smashed into a million pieces, but I'm happy with who I am now and I know so much more than I did when this all started.

I skimmed through some of the posts and at the time I didn't get the frustration people had with me. Now I can see it. Once you make it through the tunnel, you know things are brighter on the other side. But when you're living it, you are blind to anything but what you think you want. I want to grab people
and shake them and tell them to let go, everything will be okay. But people have to live and learn. And I don't regret anything I did, because I can truly say I did all I could and I loved with all I had. I deserved better, and I'm getting better now. And my heart is able to truly appreciate and love more than I thought was possible.

Just handed stbx ANOTHER draft of the marital settlement agreement. Please cross your fingers with me and pray that he signs that damn thing!

I didn't read your whole story, but so glad to hear the wonderful outcome. It really gives hope to all of us that are currently going through this hell.

I would love to hear other peoples outcomes that don't post anymore. I guess once the black cloud is gone, you really don't need this forum anymore.

Thank you for the update and good luck with the settlement agreement.

LonelyNLost · 05-01-2012, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by jenny123

I didn't read your whole story, but so glad to hear the wonderful outcome. It really gives hope to all of us that are currently going through this hell.

I would love to hear other peoples outcomes that don't post anymore. I guess once the black cloud is gone, you really don't need this forum anymore.

Thank you for the update and good luck with the settlement agreement.

Thanks! Yes, it is a long and sordid tale, but brief version is the same. End story is that yes it sucks to be left (and/or cheated on) but life DOES go on and you will survive it and be happier at the end because of the self-discovery that you'll go through. Eye opening for sure!

I'll try to get the rest to come back and maybe we'll post a "Where are they now?" thread for those of us that have been in the process for a year or more. It actually helped me move forward by not coming back to TAM much. It's a lot of sadness, and the state that people are in, they don't really believe that things will get better even if the outcome isn't what they wanted. And if you go over to "Life after divorce" not many happy people post there. Sigh. But if a few people read this and get inspiration, then it's worth it.

Good luck to you!