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Old 04-03-2011, 12:56 PM   #136 (permalink)
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well, he ended up just showing me that he is an entitled prick...

Seriously though. He called and texted and kept on the whole he cant understand why I won't. I get better at hanging up now I need to learn not to answer. He is very certain I am attacking him out od spite and to "teach him a lesson". I am not, I just need money to pay rent for me and the children to have a stable place to live. I know this is not a priority with him but it is with me. So is food and electricity and running water. Bills should be paid! Why is that so unthinkable to him. It is as if he cares nothing for the kids...
Friday morning I checked the balance to confirm the deposit. There was a refund that had been there for 2 weeks lol I had no idea but he did get different net service and had used that card (i didn't know that either...) so I figured yay! I don't have to feel guilt he will have $60 and I don't have to take any money away from my budget. I put it on his card and tell him. I get moans about how it is not enough... cut that convo right off and went shopping. He went on and on as much as I would let him via text and call but I kept it short. Then last night he says in one of these calls. He is so bored and has to sit on the computer all day. I say (ya I was a bit snappy I admit) I would love a turn on the computer, or just to be able to clean the living room. He says he would come over and play outside withthe kids so I could have a minute. I say that would be awesome. Just come over and they are outside and you can play and I will clean and we will keep it light. Not to replace Sunday dinner just a light visit. He says no he doesn't want to makes him too sad. I say fine, gotta go and play with the kids.

I do and am out in the yard when the phone rings again, about an hour later. It is him saying "is it cool if I change my mind?" I say well ya I suppose since we have quite a bit of daylight left, then I look and he is already here... f*@ker. The kids run over and say hi. I try to smile. He comes in and tries to talk our son into staying in the house!!!! My babe had my back and dragged him right out I stuck my head out and said "cool, you have this then?" he sadly said "yeah but it's cold"
I went in and started cleaning, my living room had the leavins of the days cardboard creations, a fleet of lego space ships... etc
I lack faith so I am checking out the window often. He did not play he stood on the sidewalk, watching. Never put a foot in the field that I saw and I know he can throw a football. sad
I keep cleaning. Son gets thirsty and comes in for a drink. He SITS RIGHT DOWN! sulking...Son goes right back out and I have to say to him "are you still on that or are we done?" He says yeah, I'm on it. The tone you would swear I had just asked him to go to the opera lol
He tries this move again when they came in and I even gave him leftovers to show that it was time to leave in a nice way. He got in a dig in front of the kids about how I was making him go... a$$hole
and still I had to say flat out "this is not supposed to be deep and was for the kids, I will see you tomorrow" He left in a big huff, then came back in a big huff to say bye to son (said he forgot) then left in the same huff.
Then texts he is not coming tomorrow (Sunday, today). Then texts love. Then facebooks love and apoligies and more and I am really hoping he doesn't come today but I bet he will....

There is so much more but this is a freaking novel!! Taht was just a 12 hour period.
He can't stop abusing me in one way or another. I need to learn now how to not pick up the phone...
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well, he ended up just showing me that he is an entitled prick...

Seriously though. He called and texted and kept on the whole he cant understand why I won't. I get better at hanging up now I need to learn not to answer. He is very certain I am attacking him out od spite and to "teach him a lesson". I am not, I just need money to pay rent for me and the children to have a stable place to live. I know this is not a priority with him but it is with me. So is food and electricity and running water. Bills should be paid! Why is that so unthinkable to him. It is as if he cares nothing for the kids...
Friday morning I checked the balance to confirm the deposit. There was a refund that had been there for 2 weeks lol I had no idea but he did get different net service and had used that card (i didn't know that either...) so I figured yay! I don't have to feel guilt he will have $60 and I don't have to take any money away from my budget. I put it on his card and tell him. I get moans about how it is not enough... cut that convo right off and went shopping. He went on and on as much as I would let him via text and call but I kept it short. Then last night he says in one of these calls. He is so bored and has to sit on the computer all day. I say (ya I was a bit snappy I admit) I would love a turn on the computer, or just to be able to clean the living room. He says he would come over and play outside withthe kids so I could have a minute. I say that would be awesome. Just come over and they are outside and you can play and I will clean and we will keep it light. Not to replace Sunday dinner just a light visit. He says no he doesn't want to makes him too sad. I say fine, gotta go and play with the kids.

I do and am out in the yard when the phone rings again, about an hour later. It is him saying "is it cool if I change my mind?" I say well ya I suppose since we have quite a bit of daylight left, then I look and he is already here... f*@ker. The kids run over and say hi. I try to smile. He comes in and tries to talk our son into staying in the house!!!! My babe had my back and dragged him right out I stuck my head out and said "cool, you have this then?" he sadly said "yeah but it's cold"
I went in and started cleaning, my living room had the leavins of the days cardboard creations, a fleet of lego space ships... etc
I lack faith so I am checking out the window often. He did not play he stood on the sidewalk, watching. Never put a foot in the field that I saw and I know he can throw a football. sad
I keep cleaning. Son gets thirsty and comes in for a drink. He SITS RIGHT DOWN! sulking...Son goes right back out and I have to say to him "are you still on that or are we done?" He says yeah, I'm on it. The tone you would swear I had just asked him to go to the opera lol
He tries this move again when they came in and I even gave him leftovers to show that it was time to leave in a nice way. He got in a dig in front of the kids about how I was making him go... a$$hole
and still I had to say flat out "this is not supposed to be deep and was for the kids, I will see you tomorrow" He left in a big huff, then came back in a big huff to say bye to son (said he forgot) then left in the same huff.
Then texts he is not coming tomorrow (Sunday, today). Then texts love. Then facebooks love and apoligies and more and I am really hoping he doesn't come today but I bet he will....

There is so much more but this is a freaking novel!! Taht was just a 12 hour period.
He can't stop abusing me in one way or another. I need to learn now how to not pick up the phone...
At least you put your foot down re: money. I too have an ex that was a boundary pusher and thought nothing of using kids to see me.
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Old 04-04-2011, 05:19 AM   #138 (permalink)
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Arrrgh having a hard time today He is going to send me his 'new' address.. he's texted asked how the kids and I are... normally he doesn't ask about me He doesn't love me or want me, why send me bloody texts?!
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Old 04-08-2011, 10:53 AM   #139 (permalink)
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I agree AmI...
why can't they just be consistant?!?
I get sweet and awesome, then rage and entitlement, and right back to sweet.
The sweet really hurt yesterday. Trying not to feel crazy but I sure do... I cry this morning because he was nice?... no... I cry because I don't trust it's not a game but I want to so bad...
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Old 04-08-2011, 10:56 AM   #140 (permalink)
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Mine has turned into a full fledge jackass. Spineless, heartless, coward. COWARD! Hasn't even sat down with me and said he can't do this anymore, he wants a divorce. Instead he texts everything but those words, and then yesterday leaves paperwork for figuring out custody in my car after he picks the kids up for the night. Oh, and he's filled them all out asking for 50/50! Um, I don't think so!
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