Ok, so new dynamic to take into play when the In-laws started reaching out. So considering I have had only had one physical and verbal contact with thier son, this is odd.
We/us (as a family) have been very close over the last nine years, however with that being said, his family is super quiet and close nit.
When this happened (3/24/11,) I didn't reach out to Mom or Dad on his side because it wasn't my place. I felt he should tell them where we stood. With that being said, his mom and I had a really good relationship, (shopping, dinner, family outings solo (without him) and no pressure ever, we were/are close. BUT... when this happened, I felt no need to call her because I felt her loyalty was with him, not me.
Ok, Fast forward a week. She called me and talked "small talk" then said she knew what was going on, but know's that I know "she doesn't get involved." As disheartening as this was to hear, I knew she was being honest because I know that's her personality. So I never said my feelings to her about her son as mcuh as I really wanted to.
(So I saw him finally, a few days later, see in my thread, how exciting that was
and then back to life I go.)
The following day, his Dad calls me, and says he hopes I don't look at him and his wife as bad people and hopes we can keep connection. As much as I wanted to put his son down, I kept it real and just said, "I know and I'm sad how this went". We talked for a few more and that was it. Nothing ever bad about his son, again.
Fast forward to today, and again I get a call from his Mom. She said she wanted me to know that she thinks of me everyday and that's it. Asked me where I was and how's everything. I kept it casual and never brought up her son.
PS. the conversation ended Great for me, because I was like "Oh **** They Care" and that meant alot to me, even though I didn't express that to them.
I really felt isolated the days after he left and now that they are reaching out and not him, it still means something to me.
I have only spoken and seen my H the day I mentioned on this thread. He texted again about business today, but his text needed no responce, it was more informative if anything.
OK, so here's my question, Have you all maintained contact with the in-laws or is that inevidably gonna be gone too?
PSS: I think hearing from them is difficult because I'd love for them to tell thier son how wrong he was for what he did to me and yet I know that's not my place to do. I just wish I had it in me to do it in a way that made them know how upset I was without making them feel in the middle. I guess that's not possible though. Maybe you parent's out ther could help me with this one. How would you want to be approached if your son did this to someone? Private or approached considering the info I gave you about our relationship?
Re: My Life as I knew it is over, So Very Sad! 
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. It was a fullfilling weekend to say the least. I even went to church today by myself and I was surrounded front and back by a young family with a baby. It brought tears to my eyes, but I kept composed. I guess everything happens for a reason, because by the end, I was smiling and looking at those beautiful children and thinking positive thoughts. 
