04-26-2011, 02:20 PM
Join Date: Dec 2010
| | Filed for divorce after 25 years
Does it ever get any easier?? I just filed 2 weeks ago. I waiver from being sure this is the right thing, to doubting my choice - and being scared to death either way. Here's a short description of how everything started. Our marriage has been rocky for many years, we have two children on 24 and one 17. I'm in my 40's and he is in his 60's, we married when I found out I was pregnant with our 1st child. My husband had a bad childhood and then served in Vietnam - he blames all his problems on these things. He is very angry and controlling....if you don't agree with him or don't do what he wants the arguing/yelling starts. both our children have had problems with him....I have tried for years to keep the peace but the stress will get to me and I will get upset and we will argue and yell and he will say he is leaving and wants a divorce. Sometimes he would leave for a few days but then come back and expect everything to go on like nothing happened. This time he yelled at our 17 yr old daughter, calling her names I can't type here, saying neither one of us respected him and she wasn't his daugter anymore. He said again that maybe he should leave...this time I told him yes I think you should leave, and I filed for divorce the next week. Now he emails me saying he loves me and wants to work it out/go to counseling and get back together. Then in the next email, he will say things like he would rather all our money go to the lawyers and that he will force me to sell my daughter's and my horses, dogs, cats, everthing. He just confuses and hurts me and I just don't know if I can get through this.