04-27-2011, 09:56 PM
Join Date: Mar 2011
| | Husband has lost his mind...
Ok so many of you know my story by now. My H has been having an EA/PA for almost 4 months now. We have tried to work things out a few times but he pretty much refuses to kick OW to the curb. And we all know you can't fix a marriage with the OW in the picture. H moved into his own place last week. In the 6 wks that he has been in and out of this house (mostly out, sleeping on other peoples couches and running around behind my back) he has hardly contributed a dime to the bills or the health and well-being of our 3 children. I have been threatening to do it, but today I finally visited an attorney and got the ball rolling for a legal separation.
Where I live legal separation is pretty much the same as divorce. He will have to pay me child support and pay half of the bills. Also he pretty much robbed me of my half of the income tax refund...so he will be ordered to pay that back as well. I notified him afterward that I received the paperwork and as soon as it's completed my attorney will be serving him. Well H has not given me his new address and really I have no idea where he lives. He told me the street...but that's all he will allow me to know at this point. I'm pretty sure it's because the OW spends alot of time there and he's afraid I will catch them together (at this point I really could care less about seeing them together). So I told him I needed his address so he could be served the papers. Well this evening he lost his mind. He texted me some of the meanest texts I have ever received from anybody. He is LIVID that he's going to have to fork over the money to support the kids and myself.
He told me I'm going to take every cent he makes and he won't have anything left. Honestly, it's true lol. He doesn't make much money and he will be paying a lot of money to support our 3 kids. I don't feel bad for him....HE made his bed. But at the same time, I'm wondering where all this anger is coming from. I'm wondering if it's really about the money or if deep down it's partially the guilt of realizing the hole he has dug himself into. OW had no money (no house, no car... nothing really). And the house H is renting is a dump and he's paying way to much for it. He also can't afford to really furnish it or have cable. So I think he's pretty bored there.
I want to just yell "this is what you get! You walked out on me and your kids!". But I'm trying to remain calm and be the bigger person lol