Wife says she's fallen in love with another man.
My wife and I have been married for nearly thirteen years, and we've been through some rough patches - we lost one of our children ten years ago when he was six to name but one. We are both 35. I look 45, she looks 25 and is absolutely gorgeous. I've always been quite restrained in expressing myself, but I've always told her I love her and meant it. She did the same.
Until a month ago.
I'd just taken a new job with a massive pay-cut to be closer to home, when she said she loves me, but isn't IN love with me, and hasn't felt that way in years. I just DIDN'T know!
I was devastated. She used to be SO loving and affectionate. Then she didn't want anything to do with me. She said she needed space to 'discover herself' because our eldest was joining the army, and will probably be going to Afganistan.
I accepted her criticism of my failings - I have been a very unsupportive husband, but I was being driven out of my mind to the point I was seriously contemplating suicide after she told me.
Then I found out she was having an affair, our eldest went mad and we three had an all night arguement whilst the other children were crying, and she says it's unforgivable that the kids got involved, and that the eldest found out I'd been thinking of killing myself.
I later found out the affair is with a Marine (a 'REAL' man, as she says). She told me she felt that she was falling in love with him and needed space to sort her mind out. She lso said she wants me to try and court her again, but says she can't give the other man up, because she wants to be sure what she wants. Before I left, she jumped on me and we had fantastic sex - the best in years. When I saw her a week later I had high hopes but she had become even more distant from me than before - and then complained that I was ooking so sad I was depressing her.
She's even suggested selling the home and buying one for herself and the kids and one for me. At the moment I have to stay in a friends spare room.
What can I do? I love her so much, I miss being a full-time dad, but every time I'm in her comany I get so frustrated I swing from anger to pleading and begging.
Help. My life is in utter ruins.