Re: Walk away spouse and finances.. advice?
Yes, lots of great advice on here.
I have been in counseling since the first time she left in November. I'm normally a fairly confident, outgoing guy, but I got starry-eyed with the dream of finding the "right one." I don't have a problem attracting sane, self-sufficient women, but I seem to have a drive to engage with women who need care. I'm working through that before I get into another relationship.
The meeting with the attorney was not as satisfying as I would have liked. He did say that I could cancel the all the cards and close the joint accounts, but because she owns half of the family land that I'm committed to pass down to my son, he suggested I move slowly in cutting her off completely. The best outcome, in his opinion, is to entice her into signing a separation agreement in which she agrees to take her name off of the land and the business while at the same time preparing for the worse. Either way, with the agreement, or going to court, he's convinced I'll come out with the land and business since I can prove infidelity and abandonment. Meanwhile, the money is protected.
I still feel like a doormat by paying insurance, phone and car, but the attorney insists I have patience and keep the end game in mind.
Still no contact from her, but I can see from stupid facebook that she's left the area. And she did try to reach out by pretending to be her sister. I didn't reply. Too much of a childish game.
The anger finally kicked in. I've been waiting for it.
I'm ready for this to be over and to move on!