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post #301 of 312 (permalink) Old 07-18-2016, 10:11 PM Thread Starter
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"Deep down I bet you knew this would happen. Proceed forward with your life. Your concern for her should be as much as yours is for me making sure to watch American Ninja Warriors tonight."

I have zero concern for her. As far as the papers, I'd rather get that over with now, but in the end it don't matter. I can just file for divorce next May 8th. Yeah, a part of me figured she wouldn't sign. She rarely follows through with anything. And I'm sure she'll try to pull something at some point. I don't give a rat's...

"She had to have an excuse to park her "much used" arse in the victim chair. Re-writing history 101. When her actions bring you hate, much work you have to do. Remember Luke in Empire Strikes Back, the swamp, Yoda..... "let go Luke""

Yes, I do have work to do. I've let go of everything except regret that I pissed so much away on her. Ain't nothing I can do about it now, but it does chap me that I allowed that to happen.


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When I broke things off with 4th love.... I asked myself "is she here to help me or hinder me"

If hinder, kick those people to the curb. Surround yourself with positive people. Negative people will

pull you down to their schit level. Kick 'em to the curb.

Date women and try to simply take sex out of the equation for awhile. You'd be amazed at what is

out there.
I allowed myself to be hindered and pulled down so long. Now that ex is out, I can see how many positive, loyal people there are out there who sincerely care for me - givers, not takers. I neglected those relationships while I had my head up ex's a@@. But I'm making up for lost time. Good friends and family. Nobody demanding or needing anything.

As far as dating, I had forgotten that there were women out there who won't suck up all your life and money until you're dry. And dang it feels good to be focused on me and not some relationship or some made up neediness.
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Great and unexpected news! I have received the signed and notarized separation papers. I keep everything that I've worked so hard for. Didn't have to give anything.

In the past two weeks, I've learned about another boyfriend she had, a bus driver in her home country who she used to see when she was there staying in the house we built there. And, I have learned from some of her coworkers that she had an elaborate story about how I abused her and treated her like a slave. Although, the other boyfriend wasn't really that shocking, the slap on my reputation stung a little. Fortunately, people knew better. So, good riddance!

Meanwhile, I'm enjoying life! Yay for the papers! I really thought it was going to be a problem and a fight. All that's left is for my attorney to file them, change the deeds, and change the ownership of my consulting business. Then, done!
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APs are usually much lower on the "sex rank." Hence the ego boost for the WS.

Be VERY thankful you never had children with her.

Many WS justify their self esteem by notches on the bed post. Ever heard a success story from that? Neither have I.

Forward and never look back. Brighter days. You avoided Bespin (Empire Strikes Back).

Learn, train, soak in Yoda's knowledge. Let the world see the best fvcking PWNC possible.....

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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Great and unexpected news! I have received the signed and notarized separation papers. I keep everything that I've worked so hard for. Didn't have to give anything.

In the past two weeks, I've learned about another boyfriend she had, a bus driver in her home country who she used to see when she was there staying in the house we built there. And, I have learned from some of her coworkers that she had an elaborate story about how I abused her and treated her like a slave. Although, the other boyfriend wasn't really that shocking, the slap on my reputation stung a little. Fortunately, people knew better. So, good riddance!

Meanwhile, I'm enjoying life! Yay for the papers! I really thought it was going to be a problem and a fight. All that's left is for my attorney to file them, change the deeds, and change the ownership of my consulting business. Then, done!
Congrats on getting the papers. Don't let the slap on the reputation bug you, it's common and the stories will likely get more outlandish as time goes on.

Just keep putting her in the rear view mirror.

Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learned something from yesterday
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PWNC............ how's life treatin ya these days??

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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Cut her off please. She is selfish, irresponsible and not ready to be married. Someone should only have one time to walk out of your life; shock her and don't let her back in this time. She is taking advantage of you because she knows she can and go as she pleases. Close the door and let her figure out the rest for herself and find someone that genuinely loves you, when you're ready.
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PWNC............ how's life treatin ya these days??
Hey Chuck,

Things are going great. Been working on a new life. I haven't talked to the ex in weeks. She's tried to contact me several times. Nothing left to talk about. Got the papers. Life is quiet. There have been ups and downs, regular family and work stuff, all part of life, but nothing like the s@#t I was going through with the ex.

I still get a little down every now and then about how long it took me to get my life back under my control, but I can say that my life is better now than it's been in years. Couldn't have made it without this forum - all the experience and support.
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Egh... what we're here for.

No more never would with always could

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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It's so good to see that you have broken free. Great job on not responding her attempts at communication.


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How's life???

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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Brother you have trouble on your hands but listen up ......... My W of 24 years and two kids , ended up on course headed for the slammer after she was found out , to be embezzling funds from her work and she ran up credit cards accounts to the hilt ........... I was ambushed by this behavior and I had no idea she was doing this for years !!! I had to face her boss and CPA and the Boss wife ......... talk about stress !!!
I had to act quick and get her psych evaluated , which I found out she is Bi Polar type 1 , had to hire a criminal defense attorney to help me with her embezzlement case and successfully worked out a lump sum payment to satisfy the Boss and Boss wife , then I hired an attorney to get a legal separation with emphasis on financial protections for me and she willingly signed off on all of it ......... we are still separated , separate finances and still living together but it has been tough on me for sure ........... I'm telling you now , you don't have kids , don't let love blindside you on this one .......... get your act together and get out of this marriage , you don't have as much to lose as I have and believe me this has cost me a fortune to deal with it .......... Good luck and don't look in the rear view mirror
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