10-16-2008, 12:33 AM
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: mountain west
| | Re: if she doesnt try-how will it change-am i right??please some advice or input.
Originally Posted by lmh11706
7she always says 3 months is nothing compared to the 6 yrs she feels i was doing it.but if she loved me wouldnt she want to make it work already especially since we are not divorcing and still living together and have again been married 15 yr i dont know- i keep waiting each day for her to be ready-im confused too-but i deserve all this-but i want it to end and i want my wife back
3 month IS nothing campared to what she's been through. and i know you'll agree that's true. and if she loves you, yes she WILL want to make it work. 15 years dude, you got your second chance once. i don't know how dude, but you found yourself in the same boat. dammit!!! there's lots of us here that would give an arm for a second chance.
anyway, don't think you're getting another chance by using the methods you used before. if she's smart, she ain't buyin your crap.
not to be so harsh, but if you're asking here, you gotta make a vow to yourself to take away from here whatever you take, but NEVER put yourself in this position again.
counseling...GOOD...let it all hang out to your counselor...find out why the hell you do this based on what you sound like you have to lose. you're gonna make a pact, a contract with her and you are NEVER going there again. i know you've read about transparent living. guess what? you earned it.
i wish you the best, and i mean that. thank you for being so open, so honest, WITH US. now learn to live that way within your relationship.
separated, honoring wife and family daily, she deserves the best me i can give her.
4 kids g18, g12, g11, b7