Re: already divorced trying to get wife back
I have a hard time relating to your story, but it seems to me you have compromised a lot and weren't able to set boundaries - if she has a job then why are you paying for her lifestyle still? If it works for you, then I guess it is fine, there is no authority in the world that can say you are not allowed to reconcile if you both want to (in the eyes of some lke me your official marital status is just paperwork, its the relationship that matters), but from what it sounds like to me you've set yourself up to get walked all over. All I can say is make sure you know what you are getting back into, make sure you have both made the changes necessary to make it work, and are both willing to continue working on things. Or maybe your relationship with her is truly better as just a frienship, or friends with benefits, or just physical, I don't know but you have no obligation to make this something you don't want it to be.