06-12-2011, 03:39 AM
Join Date: Jun 2011
| | Made a decision!
Hi all and thanks to everyone who read and replied to my previous post.
I had a terrible day yesterday. He had taken the kids out for the day and I made the fatal mistake of sitting in the house on my own and crying on and off for the whole day until he brought the kids home! I felt very lonely and I missed my kids! Odd because while we were still together, on the rare occasions I had the house to myself, I never felt lonely and really enjoyed the peace and quiet!! Once the kids were home, I felt so much better!
Well, this morning, I woke up with a bit of clarity I suppose. Why should I sit around feeling down and upset when he patently has moved on?! He has got a new girlfriend already and doesn't seem to me to be grieving the end of our 10 year relationship (8 years married). If he can move on without so much as a backward glance in only a few weeks, then so can I!
I don't expect it to me an instant turn over, I'm not that daft, however I will no longer sit around moping. I will get on and move on! Enough wondering where I went wrong, because I know I didn't. He did!!
I'm very fortunate to have some very supportive friends and a brilliant mum who is always on the end of the phone for me! I hate to say it, but I do feel a bit gleeful that aside from his new girlfriend and a small family, he has no-one in his life! I know I'll come out of this all a lot stronger and I can imagine he will crumble in time.