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post #1411 of 1449 (permalink) Old 03-09-2017, 02:51 PM
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A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
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The old "absence makes the heart go fonder" thing.

You saw a lot of baggage and red flags right? Those things are still there today right?

So what has changed?

Have fun in San Diego. Stay away from Tijuana!!!!
The red flags I saw could potentially be something to resolve. Yes there were some personality differences that will not change but I feel like I was nit picking at everything in my head trying to find a way out. I was scared at how fast it went. If things do get going again with her it'll definitely be a lot slower.

After talking to "some" of my friends and some coworkers, everyone has baggage in all shapes and sizes. Hell I have a lot myself. I used to think the bad out weighed the good with her but as time has gone on I feel like the good may have out weighed the bad. We'll see what if anything happens... I cant help how I feel and have felt the past at least 2-3 weeks. Maybe I'm chasing something that wont work out but I feel like I might want to give it one more shot and would regret it if I didn't.

This whole adult dating thing is hard!!! lol.

As for San Diego...we will NOT be anywhere near Tijuana...been there done that many years ago when I was younger...told myself never again!
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[QUOTE=MrPack;17497450]The red flags I saw could potentially be something to resolve. Yes there were some personality differences that will not change but I feel like I was nit picking at everything in my head trying to find a way out. I was scared at how fast it went. If things do get going again with her it'll definitely be a lot slower.

After talking to "some" of my friends and some coworkers, everyone has baggage in all shapes and sizes. Hell I have a lot myself. I used to think the bad out weighed the good with her but as time has gone on I feel like the good may have out weighed the bad. We'll see what if anything happens... I cant help how I feel and have felt the past at least 2-3 weeks. Maybe I'm chasing something that wont work out but I feel like I might want to give it one more shot and would regret it if I didn't./QUOTE]

If this rebooted relationship is to succeed, she has to become your "buddy." If you cannot get to that state, then allow it to die a merciful death.
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Many people chase things that aren't "really there"

In life, philosophy, religion, economic status... and relationships.

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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The red flags I saw could potentially be something to resolve. Yes there were some personality differences that will not change but I feel like I was nit picking at everything in my head trying to find a way out. I was scared at how fast it went. If things do get going again with her it'll definitely be a lot slower.

After talking to "some" of my friends and some coworkers, everyone has baggage in all shapes and sizes. Hell I have a lot myself. I used to think the bad out weighed the good with her but as time has gone on I feel like the good may have out weighed the bad. We'll see what if anything happens... I cant help how I feel and have felt the past at least 2-3 weeks. Maybe I'm chasing something that wont work out but I feel like I might want to give it one more shot and would regret it if I didn't./QUOTE]

If this rebooted relationship is to succeed, she has to become your "buddy." If you cannot get to that state, then allow it to die a merciful death.
What do you mean "she has to become my buddy?"
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What do you mean "she has to become my buddy?"
Somebody who you might want to hang out with, to go to a ballgame with or do a day trip to say, Fenimore, WI to buy some cheese. Someone who you are willing to spend time with doing the mundane day to day things (not in a dating situation), like going to the laundromat.

Comprenez?
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Somebody who you might want to hang out with, to go to a ballgame with or do a day trip to say, Fenimore, WI to buy some cheese. Someone who you are willing to spend time with doing the mundane day to day things (not in a dating situation), like going to the laundromat.

Comprenez?
You must leave the toilet seat down. No more burping and farting. She must be willing to wash your Haynes while she sings. Fold 'em too. If needed, you should invest in some Viagra one paks and tell her she's way hotter than the milfs in the commercial. See how easy this is? Oh, and learn line dancing. Make the Darlin Mambo your top priority. Put plenty of Jake Owen on the box. You got this MrPack.
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Went to happy hour tonight with work buddies after a long terrible day. The girl is coming over after she puts her son to bed (her dad is staying with her for a little while, there will be an adult at her house while shes here). Anyway my point is that I called her after happy hour and she asked if I wanted to come over and eat dinner, I told her I needed to go home to catch up on some work (which I do). She offered to come over just to hangout for a couple hours. It's hard to explain but it feels good and right when we are together just watching TV, or having drinks/dinner or bumming around running errands. A week from this Saturday she is coming with me to a friends Bday party at this outdoor bar where you play sand volleyball and other outdoor activities. She's nervous but she wants to come. I'm pretty happy right now. A TAM member/friend told me to take it one day at a time and that's exactly what I'm doing.

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I've acquired a treadmill recently and have been eating better and have lost some weight and leaned up a bit. Treadmill and gym has been helping. Just gotta stick to it.
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... She must be willing to wash your Haynes while she sings. Fold 'em too. ...
@Absurdist - If you did this, then I am in awe of you.



I couldn't get my wife to do that before we were married!

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... She offered to come over just to hangout for a couple hours. It's hard to explain but it feels good and right when we are together just watching TV, or having drinks/dinner or bumming around running errands. A week from this Saturday she is coming with me to a friends Bday party at this outdoor bar where you play sand volleyball and other outdoor activities. She's nervous but she wants to come. I'm pretty happy right now. A TAM member/friend told me to take it one day at a time and that's exactly what I'm doing...
Looks promising. When my wife and I were dating, I was the all-in romantic type while she wanted to go slow. She always made the point that you can love someone, but you really need to like them first. I hope your gf gets to play sand volleyball with you this Saturday, and you both like to be around each other doing the mundane day-to-day stuff.

PS - My wife must have known something, because we have been married 40+ years.
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Just dropping by to say hello. It's been a while since I've posted anything. Things are still going good with the GF and everything else. Really cant complain to much about anything at the moment other than work crap!

Hope all is well with you guys.
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I am new to all of this and I truly wish I wasn't but I read your story and had to tell you how sorry I am you are going through this right now.
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I am new to all of this and I truly wish I wasn't but I read your story and had to tell you how sorry I am you are going through this right now.
Thank you. I am in a much better place now...thank god.
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Well, I guess I spoke too soon with my last post. I'm single once again. Back to the drawing board!
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