Re: Confusing signs from separated wife...
I'm fresh out of this, but....
Take everything she says and TOTALLY IGNORE IT. You can't figure it out, because it makes no sense, even to her. Base anything you think on her ACTIONS. She is gone. She's staying gone. She hasn't asked to come back. If she wanted to, she would. People do what they WANT to do. She's not feeling so guilty she wouldn't ask you to come home if she really wanted to.
What she is doing, in my opinion, is checking to make sure YOU still care. She wants plan B, or wants the power over you.
My advice: Go on with your life as if she were dead. That will garner respect from her. Hanging on her every word and such, will have the opposite effect ( not that you're doing that). You don't have to start dating or anything; you don't want to anyway. Just be yourself and hope for the best, whether it be her or not. Accept reality: she is gone. I hope she comes back to you, but most likely she won't. There's something out there that she's after, whether it be another man, lack of responsibility, etc. From what I've seen, they rarely do. I was told that and didn't want to believe it.
She's not after you, or she'd come home. Don't chase her like I did mine-- they will run.
I pray that you will be happy in the end, either way.