Confusing signs from separated wife...
My wife and I have been separated for four-months now. Over this time, she has had limited contact with me through sporadic emails. She won't meet me and won't talk on the phone. She graduated with her degree last May and went to her parents home. While she was there, I sent her flowers as a present.
However, two months ago, she had come back home (when I was at work) to pick up a few things. She actually left much of her stuff here. When she had come, she noticed that I had taken all pictures of us down because they were too painful for me to look at. After receiving the flowers, she emailed me and told me that she was confused by my actions because when she came and saw the pictures down, she thought that I was removing her from my life and the gesture to send the flowers seemed contradictory in nature. She failed to note the fact that at two different times, I had emailed her asking for communication and telling her that we should work things out.
After her last email, I told her that I was sorry she felt hurt but my intention was never to hurt her or remove her from my life. I explained that the reason I took them down is because they were hard to look at. I also let her know that virtual silence for four-months has been her idea and that we need communication.
The mixed signals that I am getting are killing me. On one hand, she won't talk to me, even on the phone and it makes me think that she doesn't want this marriage anymore but on the other hand, she emails me and explicitly says that she was hurt when the pics were down and that the flowers really "lifted her heart". She also said that when she came to pick things up, it was only to grab some clothes and not to remove herself from my life.
I just don't know what to think...I don't know if she really just does want a break or she is angling towards ending things. HELP!!!!