Hello - I am new here...my STBXH informed me 2 days before our anniversary last year (after I asked him if he was cheating on me) that he was miserable and hated our life. He resented the kids (three of them) because, among other things, they were dependent on him. We were an average family, I stayed home because that's what I thought we both wanted. We aren't wealthy but we do okay.
I fought to be what he wanted me to be, tried to salvage things, he drove wedges in between us, treated me like absolute crap, and basically left me. Then came back, then left again, then came back one more time, then left again.
I think I've gone through all the stages of grieving, I lost 20 pounds, then gained 50
, I'm medicated, and back in school. But I still have a lot of anger towards him that he doesn't understand. We haven't filed yet, but only because he agreed to wait until I get a job and have health insurance since I have medical conditions that have to be covered or I will quite literally die.
A few other things about him, he admitted to having "emotional affairs" through e-mail with women he supposedly doesn't know (he even convinced me after I found a secret e-mail account that it wasn't his, etc...), he also admitted to having an internet porn addiction, but sought no help, he played an average of 8 hours of video games per day (after working a full day - so pretty much from 6pm -2am). After getting his first iPhone he became 100% tethered to the internet, facebook, twitter, you name it
Anyway, just here for some support and somewhere I can vent and share with people who understand some of what I am going through - hope that's here.