11-11-2008, 08:36 AM
Join Date: Oct 2008
| | Re: Still separated. Needing advice.
Well one day she came home and just said that she wasn't happy with our life together anymore. She told me that she loves me, but she isn't "in" love with me. We had a dinner a few weeks after and she told me that for now, she's made up her mind, and she's not going to be with someone who doesn't make her happy. I told her that the whole thing changed me and that I am certainly different now. Sometimes she gets a little nasty with me, but I'm not sure why. A marriage counselor told me that it was out of guilt, that she likely feels guilty for what she's done, and its easier to get mad or blame me than take that guilt. I don't know, the affair doesn't really matter that much to me, I love my wife and I want her back. I told her we can start small, lets be buds like we used to be, and she said she's not sure that she's ready for it. I don't know, if you have any advice, please share it.