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Old 11-11-2008, 05:53 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default When did you take off your wedding ring?

Just curious as to when the users here took off their wedding ring. When you seperated? When someone moved out? After the divorce? or somewhere in between?

Any regrets to taking it off or not taking it off?

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Old 11-11-2008, 08:53 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I told my wife, in a fit of rage over her behavior, that I'm done hurting and we were over. Sadly, its still on my finger hoping she will act like a normal human being and not a cheating lieing person she is right now.
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Old 11-11-2008, 09:29 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I took mine off when my husband finally admitted he was only wearing his so people wounldnt ask questions. I told him if that was the only reason he was wearing it to stop wearing it. I stopped wearing mine about two days later.

So I guess my answer is when you feel it appropriate to not wear it anymore.
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Old 11-12-2008, 08:12 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I wore mine for a few weeks after separation. Then removed it and put it in my wallet. A year or two later, while cleaning my wallet, I put it in the dresser drawer.
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Old 11-15-2008, 12:04 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I have never owned one ever, than again I rarely wear any jewery anyways, and for years the types of jobs I had the clothes and or jewerly I wore could hurt or even kill me. But I am years away from those jobs and just never got into it. If my wife ever got one for me I'd wear it for her.

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Old 11-17-2008, 12:13 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I took mine off when I decided to seperate/divorce my husband. I just knew after 8 years we were done based on certain events!

I initiated the seperation September 15th. Rings came off Around Sept 19th. My husband moved out October 14th. Still today, not wearing it.

If you are not sure about where the direction of your relationship is going, don't take it off. Or at least keep it near you like dcrim did.
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Old 11-17-2008, 12:22 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I took my off about a year ago, or something. Chucked it out the car window. We weren't/aren't separated or divorced.

No regrets about it.
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Old 11-17-2008, 03:45 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I took my off about a year ago, or something. Chucked it out the car window. We weren't/aren't separated or divorced.

No regrets about it.
WOW no way I am chucking mine out the window!!! To many diamonds LOL

It will make a nice something or another at some point =)
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mine has been on and off more than i can think in the last 13 years.
but i have always kept it close at hand.
usually took it off when it felt right to or i was ready to let go.
this is an individual and personal feeling that affects ppl in different ways.
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Old 11-19-2008, 09:03 PM   #10 (permalink)
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My husband snuck out of the house after 30 years of marriage. When I found out he was living with another woman I took my rings off. These were not my actual wedding and engagement rings but "upgrades". After thinking about it awhile, I put the diamond solitaire back on just because I like it. I thought it was a shame to keep it in the drawer just because my husband is acting like an idiot.
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My husband snuck out of the house after 30 years of marriage. When I found out he was living with another woman I took my rings off. These were not my actual wedding and engagement rings but "upgrades". After thinking about it awhile, I put the diamond solitaire back on just because I like it. I thought it was a shame to keep it in the drawer just because my husband is acting like an idiot.
same finger, or did you move it?
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Old 11-20-2008, 12:02 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I wear mine around a chain on my neck... It hasn't fit on my finger in years... She doesn't know I still wear it but means to much for me to take if off even though my marriage is most likely over...
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same finger, or did you move it?
Same finger, it was the only one the ring fit on.
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Same finger, it was the only one the ring fit on.
are you guys back together?
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Old 11-21-2008, 09:49 AM   #15 (permalink)
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No - we are not back together. After over two months he still does not have the nerve to actually speak to me or see me - will only email. I alternate the ring with some other ones I have - so now to me it is just a piece of jewerly. We got it in the Bahamas on vacation a couple of years ago - in happier times - and I just happen to really like it. I do not wear it with the diamond band I have like I used to though.
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