First off, I just can't bring myself to call this guy "weasel boy.". No, no...not out of any modicum of respect for the scumbag, but because, believe it or not, that is the exact same name I assigned to my former best friend/roommate in college after he flaked out on our entire circle of friends (his girlfriend included). While I've finally gotten over it all in the intervening years (in the bit picture, it was all fairly unimportant stuff), that name is reserved for him. :-)
That said, since it appears he's still local...did "Mr Wonderful" move to your area, or was it just his turn to travel for the extended booty call? Posted via Mobile Device
That said, since it appears he's still local...did "Mr Wonderful" move to your area, or was it just his turn to travel for the extended booty call? Posted via Mobile Device
I believe he is back in Colorado. At least, that is what he said yesterday. He actually called me back last night to apologize for being rude. I just laughed. I said something to the effect of "I was just thinking about you. You will get your just deserts soon enough. She will be screwing around on you in no time. She made me feel ugly for 13 years. Now, she is telling me I am very sexy (I have made some physical improvements thanks to the Betrayed Spouse Extreme Weight Loss Diet) and that you are "not physically attractive." Also, you can't even use your little pecker well enough to give her an orgasm. You will most certainly reap what you have sown very soon. I kind of feel sorry for you. Actually, I don't. You are a POS and deserve everything you have coming to you."
I am truly not trying to be mean but....if she truly feels that way about "weasel boy" why is she still messing with him? Posted via Mobile Device
Oh, she "loves" him, but she did say those things. Good question on the "why". I had a thought this morning on the way to work. In reading a lot of these threads, it seems that a lot of the WW crave more attention than their husband can provide. I worked from home for years. I would go out of town on work during that time and she'd call asking me to come home the first day of a 1-week trip across the state. She hated it when I would go, and it was only a few times per year. I'd even arrange it for her family to help with the kids when I would be gone.
I got a job a little over 2 years ago. Therefore, I wasn't there all day long every day any more. Now, I wonder if that had something to do with it. This punk had nothing better to do and could devote hours of undivided attention every evening. I had to work, etc. Now that she won't be getting any attention at all from me, I'm sure Mr. Wonderful won't be able to fill her bottomless attention tank either. Therefore, she will seek yet another and another and another, etc. Maybe some day she will figure that all out. Like I told her sisters one day, no man can make her happy. I couldn't. This man won't be able to. Nor the next, or the next, or the next. Not until she works some things out inside of herself.
I am truly not trying to be mean but....if she truly feels that way about "weasel boy" why is she still messing with him? Posted via Mobile Device
My own wife is still trying to figure out why it was someone she hates that pushed her over the edge to a PA.
Hurting's wife would probably spin some BS about the deep "connection" she feels for "Mr Wonderful."
The long and the short of it is probably that she's simply responding to the high that she experiences from her illicit liaison. The simple fact that this waste of DNA isn't her husband is enough to mask all of his shortcomings that she's admitted.
For now.
Once the divorce goes through and she's responsible for herself and - assuming for the moment that this happens - "Mr Wonderful" is openly her...whatever..., then she'll be movin on to the next shiny new guy who isn't her significant other. Posted via Mobile Device
Hurt I don't mean to offend but she seem very high maintenance.
Ask Pidge I'm by no means an attentive man. She has come to the conclusion that I'm an "act of service" kind of guy. Working my a$$ off and taking care of things is how I show love. Sounds to me that you bent over backward and was still not enough. YOU deserve better .
Man, I am struggling today. The bad wolf has been kicking the good wolf's ass for the last week. I can't seem to stop feeding him. There is no good in it, but this anger and bitterness has taken a very strong hold since her latest trip. I know I have to become civil with her, but I am so very angry. I'm angry that she has just thrown me, our marriage, our kids, etc. in the garbage. I know I can not control her actions. I also know I'll be fine and the kids will be fine in the end. However, I have to let go of the anger and bitterness. She will always be their mother and I'll always be their father. I have to become civil.
I believe this anger is a subconscious way of protecting myself from further pain. If I stay angry at her, I will not ever even consider reconciling with her. If I never consider reconciling, she will never be able to hurt me again. Just typing that, it looks like I am losing my freaking mind.
How do you just accept the reality of a ****ty situation and get over the anger, bitterness, and resentment? It is only hurting me and the kids. It is not hurting her. I have to be strong and feed the good wolf. Maybe on some level I want to hold onto this anger. Any help from you folks that know how a mind works better than I do?
Bitterness needs to be the first thing to get rid of because it eats at your very soul.
Anger is very understandable in this situation and it will take some time to get over the anger, because just knowing what all she is throwing away hurts and its very painful. Knowing what I know anger has helped somewhat get me through it actually.
I wish I had the answer to accepting this reality but I think it takes alot of time and healing. Anger is a natural emotional response in these situations but it should subside over time. Wanting to hold onto the anger will actually prolong the healing process because when you stay angry it kind of keeps the sad emotions away.
Man, I am struggling today. The bad wolf has been kicking the good wolf's ass for the last week. I can't seem to stop feeding him. There is no good in it, but this anger and bitterness has taken a very strong hold since her latest trip. I know I have to become civil with her, but I am so very angry. I'm angry that she has just thrown me, our marriage, our kids, etc. in the garbage. I know I can not control her actions. I also know I'll be fine and the kids will be fine in the end. However, I have to let go of the anger and bitterness. She will always be their mother and I'll always be their father. I have to become civil.
I believe this anger is a subconscious way of protecting myself from further pain. If I stay angry at her, I will not ever even consider reconciling with her. If I never consider reconciling, she will never be able to hurt me again. Just typing that, it looks like I am losing my freaking mind.
How do you just accept the reality of a ****ty situation and get over the anger, bitterness, and resentment? It is only hurting me and the kids. It is not hurting her. I have to be strong and feed the good wolf. Maybe on some level I want to hold onto this anger. Any help from you folks that know how a mind works better than I do?
Maybe you could talk to Joe. I know he went through the same thing because of my stupidity. I really think he could help you. Posted via Mobile Device
That was different though. You fought for your relationship with him. She isn't fighting for anything besides alimony, lol. I guess he had to fight the same demons, though. I was doing pretty good at letting all those things go. Then, wham, she was with him again. I guess that shouldn't matter to me, but it sure has.
You need to try and concentrate on you and your children. Every time she gets to you it let's her know she still has some hold over you. I know it is hard. I wish I could take away all this for you and your children. Posted via Mobile Device
You need to try and concentrate on you and your children. Every time she gets to you it let's her know she still has some hold over you. I know it is hard. I wish I could take away all this for you and your children. Posted via Mobile Device
I know. I kind of lost my focus this past week. I did have a great weekend with my son, though. My daughters were away with a friend, so we had a lot of time together. He said it was the best weekend ever. I believe he has said that the last 3 weekends in a row. How long can I keep that up? lol
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