It turns into something similar to a moshpit later in the night. Country couples and line dancing til around midnight or so. Turn the lights down and play "shake your ass" music later on. I've never stayed til closing. I am probably too old to handle 2:00 in the morning there.
I have a new friend on Facebook that wants to meet up tonight. She may come by Whiskey Dix. She's invited me to another bar later in the evening. Good looking 25 year old. It could be a very interesting night.
OK, Where is that brake? What was that about waiting to date until the divorce is over? Where is that logical thinking part of my brain? Whoa, nellie, whoa!
This reminds me of when I got back from Saudi Arabia after Desert Storm. The officers and such warned us that our tolerance level to alcohol was absolutely zero. Even if we could handle a 12-pack fine before we left, we should limit ourselves to a beer or two at first. It would hit us much harder after no alcohol for months. We got back and I went to call my girlfriend. By the time I got back to the barracks (probably 30 minutes), my best friend was passed out drunk spread eagle on the floor in his drawers. I got him up on his cot and later, he started mumbling something. "Tolerance level is zero."
My "tolerance level is zero" to attention from an attractive female. A few Facebook messages and that Dopamine is rushing around in my brain so much that I think some just sloshed out of my ears. lol My hands are actually sweating. Holy cow! Isn't that insane?
. By the time I got back to the barracks (probably 30 minutes), my best friend was passed out drunk spread eagle on the floor in his drawers. I got him up on his cot and later, he started mumbling something. "Tolerance level is zero."
Hilarious!
Yeah now that you are an almost free man, you start to new notice the ladies a lil more. It's natural. I remember when a hot guy gave me his # soon after my divore. I hadn't even said hello to him, was just sitting, minding my business. I was like, "Oh yeaaah! I've still got it!"
OK, Where is that brake? What was that about waiting to date until the divorce is over? Where is that logical thinking part of my brain? Whoa, nellie, whoa!
This reminds me of when I got back from Saudi Arabia after Desert Storm. The officers and such warned us that our tolerance level to alcohol was absolutely zero. Even if we could handle a 12-pack fine before we left, we should limit ourselves to a beer or two at first. It would hit us much harder after no alcohol for months. We got back and I went to call my girlfriend. By the time I got back to the barracks (probably 30 minutes), my best friend was passed out drunk spread eagle on the floor in his drawers. I got him up on his cot and later, he started mumbling something. "Tolerance level is zero."
My "tolerance level is zero" to attention from an attractive female. A few Facebook messages and that Dopamine is rushing around in my brain so much that I think some just sloshed out of my ears. lol My hands are actually sweating. Holy cow! Isn't that insane?
My take isn't necessarily correct, but if the other lady knows the score, you're both consenting adults. My ex held out almost 3 years on the divorce. I didn't live with him, didn't sleep with him, ticked off separated on tax return and I told upfront my marital status. I dated. It's nice to see you cutting loose. Posted via Mobile Device
She knows the score. We know each other quite well, maybe too well. My brother was married to her sister. They have been divorced probably 8 years or so. I went to high school with her oldest sister. This sister is the one that taught me many of the country dances I'll be doing tonight.
The last time I saw her was probably about 7 or 8 years ago. She was about 16 or 17. I hadn't seen her in several years before that. I was quite shocked that the little girl I had known had grown up to be so attractive. I said she probably didn't remember me. She said, "How could I forget? You looked so hot in your Marine Corps uniform." Yeah, that stuck with me. My wife and I had a fight about that. There was absolutely nothing inappropriate and that was the extent of the conversation. It did stick with me because my wife never made me feel attractive and here was this girl I hadn't seen in years that was almost grown that was attracted to me.
Now, she is in her mid-20's. I'm still a lot older, but she seems to still have that attraction. And she looks damn good!!!!
She knows the score. We know each other quite well, maybe too well. My brother was married to her sister. They have been divorced probably 8 years or so. I went to high school with her oldest sister. This sister is the one that taught me many of the country dances I'll be doing tonight.
The last time I saw her was probably about 7 or 8 years ago. She was about 16 or 17. I hadn't seen her in several years before that. I was quite shocked that the little girl I had known had grown up to be so attractive. I said she probably didn't remember me. She said, "How could I forget? You looked so hot in your Marine Corps uniform." Yeah, that stuck with me. My wife and I had a fight about that. There was absolutely nothing inappropriate and that was the extent of the conversation. It did stick with me because my wife never made me feel attractive and here was this girl I hadn't seen in years that was almost grown that was attracted to me.
Now, she is in her mid-20's. I'm still a lot older, but she seems to still have that attraction. And she looks damn good!!!!
Well why not go out and have fun! You deserve to feel good about yourself! Posted via Mobile Device
Ok, Sod, I take back the "no such thing as too much adult beverage" comment. I guess it had just been so long since I had too much, I didn't remember. Or it could just be like you said, this old body don't handle it as well. I'll have to get in better shape if I want to party with 25 year olds! Maybe I'll start taking a nap after work and hitting the club when it gets going around 9:30 or 10:00.
It went well last night. It was very interesting. I ran into a lady I'd met there a few weeks ago and played some pool. I did tell her someone may be meeting me there. One of her friends came over and we talked a while. She is recently divorced (May) with 3 kids. We hit it off pretty well. My friend showed up and we sat at the bar, talking and drinking for a while. It was nice to see her. She left to go to another bar, which she had already planned. She had stopped by this one to see me first. I ended up dancing with the recently divorced lady a few times.
I also over-indulged on the free long-necks. I guess partly because I was pretty nervous. At some point, I didn't feel too good and went out to lay down in the van. I woke up several hours later and drove home. lol I haven't done that in a long time.
I sent her a simple Facebook message earlier saying, "It was nice to see you last night." She responded, "You, too! I had fun!" So, this is what detachment feels like. I wish I had started this process a lot sooner.
Ladies, let me ask you a question. Two of the 3 women I talked to last night are mothers where their "baby daddy" is not involved with the kids. As we were discussing the our kids and such I mentioned that I have mine every weekend and Wednesday nights. They both looked like I had just said I was a billionaire or something. (2 different conversations at 2 different times)
There was a thread a while back where several of the ladies were talking about what they find attractive. Loyal was one. Does being a good dad hit that top 5 list as well?
I'm just curious. I try to be the best Dad in the world because I love my kids. Nothing will change that. I just wonder if there is an added bonus of this being very attractive to potential future dates. I was kind of surprised by the reaction I got last night and wonder how common it is.
Ladies, let me ask you a question. Two of the 3 women I talked to last night are mothers where their "baby daddy" is not involved with the kids. As we were discussing the our kids and such I mentioned that I have mine every weekend and Wednesday nights. They both looked like I had just said I was a billionaire or something. (2 different conversations at 2 different times)
There was a thread a while back where several of the ladies were talking about what they find attractive. Loyal was one. Does being a good dad hit that top 5 list as well?
I'm just curious. I try to be the best Dad in the world because I love my kids. Nothing will change that. I just wonder if there is an added bonus of this being very attractive to potential future dates. I was kind of surprised by the reaction I got last night and wonder how common it is.
Outstanding. Man you can see your transformation as your threads progress. I can almost see the new confidence you have in the words you type. It's gotta be secretly killing your wife not to see the sad sack that was there 6 mos ago.
Thanks! This site has been a tremendous help. Like someone had mentioned recently, I had devoted my whole life to her and my kids for over 13 years. I had totally neglected myself and all relationships with friends, family, etc. In one week, I have about 75 friend on Facebook. I've had conversations with several of them. Some of these friends I haven't talked to in 20 years and we are talking about getting together.
So how're things going, Hurting? Its been a while since we've heard. Have you filed? How are the kids doing? Has the stbxw pulled any more of her shenanigans? Inquiring minds want to know. ;-) Posted via Mobile Device
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