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Old 12-02-2011, 05:06 PM   #391 (permalink)
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I don't understand.

She doesn't work.

How do you pay for only 'most' of the groceries?
How does she buy a $500 phone?
How does she pay for getting to where the OM is?


yea. please explain!
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Old 12-05-2011, 10:29 AM   #392 (permalink)
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I don't understand.

She doesn't work.

How do you pay for only 'most' of the groceries?
How does she buy a $500 phone?
How does she pay for getting to where the OM is?
I leave some cash, very limited, for any groceries she may need to buy for the home while I'm away.

Good question on the phone. I assume he bought it. That is the only way I can think of. Unless she has somehow managed to squirrel away much more money than I give her credit for. I did ask her brother if he had given her an early birthday present. He knew nothing of it.

Again, I am assuming he is paying for it. One conversation a couple of weeks ago when I found out she had gone to Kansas City for the weekend with him kind of implies that he has given her a check card or something. She said she didn't spend a dime. I asked how in the world you drive to Kansas City and not spend a dime. She said, "You figure it out."

Anyway, none of this really matters. I left a very small amount of cash with a written plan. Also, I left a note for her to call the mediator if she has an issue with it. I will not discuss it with her. I will only discuss it with the mediator.
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Old 12-05-2011, 12:03 PM   #393 (permalink)
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Maybe this phone, too, can have an "accident" - like a little liquid inside the battery compartment - just enough to short it out while avoiding the moisture detection pads in the phone.

Anyone asks - You didn't get this advice from me.
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Old 12-06-2011, 10:46 AM   #394 (permalink)
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Time and again, Hurting's wife has demonstrated a (near-?) sociopathic ability to do and say whatever she must to foist all responsibility for her care on someone else.

From your last couple of posts, Hurting, it sounds like Mr Wonderful might be picking some of that up financially. So, which of them is planning to move closer to the other after the D?

Or, equally possible...they both may be under the impression that she's still successfully stalling forward motion on the D. As soon as she let's him know that her HiT gravy train is ending, he might realize that this crazy, cheating chick expects him to provide for her full time, leading to the inevitable dropping of her like a hot potato.
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Old 12-12-2011, 12:55 PM   #395 (permalink)
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As soon as she let's him know that her HiT gravy train is ending, he might realize that this crazy, cheating chick expects him to provide for her full time, leading to the inevitable dropping of her like a hot potato.
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I suspect this will happen. It's one thing to fork over cash for party time, travel, hotel, etc. It's another to fork over cash for day-to-day expenses. Reality will be hard for her.
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Old 12-12-2011, 01:05 PM   #396 (permalink)
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It's about time she face reality. This woman needs to learn how to take care of herself, it sounds like she has never had to. TN, did you talk to the divorce lawyer?
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I suspect this will happen. It's one thing to fork over cash for party time, travel, hotel, etc. It's another to fork over cash for day-to-day expenses. Reality will be hard for her.
I wonder if the OM is anything like you Hurt. You have no problem paying for her 'day-to-day expenses' and you aren't even in a relationship with her.

How is the home schooling going? Have the kids been tested to see if they are keeping up?

Every once in a while I see a post on your thread and it pisses me off. The fact that you allow her to continue to use you and harm your children.
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Old 12-12-2011, 02:39 PM   #398 (permalink)
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I wonder if the OM is anything like you Hurt. You have no problem paying for her 'day-to-day expenses' and you aren't even in a relationship with her.

How is the home schooling going? Have the kids been tested to see if they are keeping up?

Every once in a while I see a post on your thread and it pisses me off. The fact that you allow her to continue to use you and harm your children.
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Old 12-14-2011, 02:44 PM   #399 (permalink)
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And how are the kids doing, Hurting? Still being homeschooled by the leech? Or are they in public school now? How are they handling the whole situation? From your posts, they seem to be pretty bright, so I imagine they can see right through her shenanigans.
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TN, did you talk to the divorce lawyer?
I had to cancel that appointment because of a work conflict. I will re-schedule soon.
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Old 12-14-2011, 03:14 PM   #401 (permalink)
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I had to cancel that appointment because of a work conflict. I will re-schedule soon.


As much as I hate to quote Jar-Jar Binks.... "My give up."
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Old 12-15-2011, 09:09 AM   #402 (permalink)
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Good Grief!!!!!!
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Old 12-15-2011, 09:24 AM   #403 (permalink)
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They say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and overt and expecting different results. I'm gonna be a little insane here.

Hurting, I feel for ya. Your leech has done you over, but good. But I'm not gonna play fair, here. I'm gonna play the kids card.

If your kids were hurt, you wouldn't let something like a "work conflict" get in the way of taking care of them, would you? Well, the longer this toxic cycle goes on, the more damage that's done to them. And you're one of the two people inflicting that damage.

So, finish reading this post, cuss me out for being an ass, then prove that your words about your kids' welfare being your top priority in all this are more than just words: pick up the phone, reschedule with the lawyer ASAP, and don't let ANYTHING keep you from going.
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Old 12-21-2011, 05:42 PM   #404 (permalink)
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Wonder if a phone call has been made....
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Any update? I assume you you re-scheduled already, or are you waiting till after Christmas/New Years?
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