Then, it will be waiting for his tax refund to cover most of the attorney's fees.
Then, a big expense will come up to put it off again.
Then, before you know it, it will be the first anniversary of her two week cross-country booty call and she'll still be under Hurting's roof, whith him covering the bills and the groceries, while she sits back and does a piss-poor job of home schooling the kids who are sinking into the tar pit of this zombie "marriage"...it's dead but keeps walking around consuming the kids' proverbial flesh. Posted via Mobile Device
Hurting, will it also begin a new life for you? Will you finally give the zombie marriage a double-tap to the head? Or, like a character from The Walking Dead, will you just keep it locked up in the wrongheaded belief that there will be a cure? Posted via Mobile Device
I think the zombie ate Hurting. Posted via Mobile Device
Either that, or I fear his WW turned on the waterworks again and he's trying to R. I hope not, but looking at the past threads and posts, it happens over and over and over again. Last time she cried a few tears, cooked lasagna and the next thing he posted was that he was going into R....until she contacted OM yet again. It's been False R infinitum. I hope I'm wrong.
Say it isn't so HiT! Please tell us she didn't suck you back into it! You were on here yesterday at 4:22 pm.
It's been a long time since I've posted. A lot has happened. Facebook took many hours of my time. lol I re-connected with a few lovely ladies that happen to be divorcing or divorced as well. I have come a long way since first posting on here. Tomorrow is the anniversary of D-Day for me.
We spent some time together at Christmas. We had only seen each other in passing for months. Nothing happened and there was no talk of reconciliation on either part. Divorce was on track.
Several events happened in the past couple of weeks or so. The process of separating the Christmas decorations into two groups was hard for her (her words). The reality of divorce was setting in. I felt total peace with it. I actually had a couple of dates lined up. Then, she called and wanted to give the marriage a chance, if I would be willing. After a lot of thought and prayerful consideration, I decided to proceed with extreme caution. I also had a health scare. I have a heart defect that acted up. She was there and comforted me through it.
We have gone on a couple of dates. Honesty has taken the place of deceitfulness. Intense IC is in place for her. At this time, I am supporting her in IC. She is the mother of my children and I need her to be healthy. Whether the relationship will go anywhere is not important at this point in time.
I'm in a much better place mentally and emotionally. I'll continue taking one day at a time. I hope all of you are doing well.
And what of her true love? Is she still in contact with him? Posted via Mobile Device
Her true love is out of the picture for now. There has been some contact since she said she wants to come back. She was a total wreck last week. I actually considered (and she even mentioned it) having her committed. She knows there can only be me or him. She confessed to her slip of calling him. It's funny, because I knew as soon as she did it. There is no getting around the gut feeling. I've made it perfectly clear. If she wants him, she can have him. Go, if you want to go. Trying to have the cake and eat it too tore her in half in many ways.
I went back and read the "Just let them go" thread. I wish I could have grasped that a year ago. I have been there for a while. I still am there.
She didn't even have to make lasagna to get you to cave this time.
Her and OM are only fighting right now, as soon as they patch things up, she'll be with him again. How many times do you have to go thru this? She's done this over and over for a year now and you have many False Rs. Sorry that she did suck you back in. Do you think she can be honest this time and really break it off with OM? Like you said, her TRUE LOVE is out of the picture FOR NOW. Those are the operative words, FOR NOW. You've been down this road before too many times.
I can understand why you haven't posted here in a while, it's as we feared. Good luck. Hopefully you won't end up with yet another D-Day & False R.
OF COURSE she wants to patch things up now. Mr Wonderful is currently out of the picture, and if the D goes through, she'll actually have to *gasp* work to support herself, rather than sitting back, doing a half-assed job of home schooling the kids the two of you are continuing to abuse emotionally by dragging this out, and having her every want and need provided for.
If she REALLY wants to rebuild the relationship (yeah, right...how many time before have you believed that her "honesty has replaced deceit" only to have that so-called honesty proven to be deceit?), here's how you can go about it: move forward with the divorce. Continue dating one another. If it works out, remarry.
Of course, it WON'T work out. She's shown her true colors too many times before. And, by FB taking up so much of your time in "reconnecting with lovely ladies" while still married, congratulations on completely nuking the high ground you had regarding disposition of custody of the kids.
I said it before, and I'll say it again, having freshly heard the line over the weekend: my give up. Posted via Mobile Device
And, by FB taking up so much of your time in "reconnecting with lovely ladies" while still married, congratulations on completely nuking the high ground you had regarding disposition of custody of the kids.
I should clarify that statement. "Reconnecting" simply means talking on Facebook. No physical meetings have taken place. No sexual chats, no nothing that takes away the "high ground." Simply talking. I was ready for a date and had set up a couple. One lady my brother's wife had wanted to set me up. We were going to go dancing with a group. One lady I was going to take out to eat the following week.
Yes, I should have waited, and plan to wait, until the divorce is final. I just got tired of being lonely.
I should clarify that statement. "Reconnecting" simply means talking on Facebook. No physical meetings have taken place. No sexual chats, no nothing that takes away the "high ground." Simply talking. I was ready for a date and had set up a couple. One lady my brother's wife had wanted to set me up. We were going to go dancing with a group. One lady I was going to take out to eat the following week.
Yes, I should have waited, and plan to wait, until the divorce is final. I just got tired of being lonely.
The high ground is charred cinder. Look back a few pages at our exchange about how your behavior can be spun by an attorney. You haven't even filed for legal separation, let alone divorce, but you're already talking to other women, setting up dates, communicating with them at such length that FB - in your own words - took up much of your time. In other words, you're beginning to exhibit the EXACT SAME BEHAVIOR that led to wifey's affair.
If you were that tired of being lonely, you should have filed. Period.
Now, you've got the parasite firmly reattached, more damage is being done to your kids every single day, and I predict that within the next three months, you'll be right back where you were prior to crocodile tears over Christmas ornaments suckered you back in.
The zombie is feasting on you. Posted via Mobile Device
Well, Grayson. I've been thinking about responding to your post for a while. I decided to do it today. I thought I'd read your history first so I know more of where you are coming from. I understand now. You went through much of what I did, The man that won't be named, the lesbian, the Idiot. You're still with her and still working with OM (the Idiot?). You seem to have a lot of anger issues that come out on your posts to me.
The zombie is not eating me or my kids. You know that gut feeling is always right. You had it as soon as "The Idiot" started working with your wife. You were right. My gut says OM is gone. I am currently supporting my wife in her intensive IC sessions in order to help her heal as best I can. As far as working on the marriage, I'm not sure I want that at this point in time. There has been a whole lot of damage done and I am not naive enough to think I can just forget it all.
The advice of "Just dump her and move on" has been very prevalent from the beginning. I happen to be of the opinion that marriage is sacred and not to be taken lightly. Sure, she did. "For better or worse" is in there for a reason. My belief that marriage should indeed be "until death do us part" has played a major factor in my delay on the divorce for all this time. Would things have been easier to just divorce her a year ago? Very possibly. It would have brought her into reality a lot faster. It would have saved a lot of trouble. But it wouldn't have been a magic cure. I know lots of divorced folks that are still stuggling with the same garbage.
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