Miss him so much
I am hoping that somebody will read my post and either be able to give me some advice, help me some how or just understand what I`m going threw.
I am 32 years old and my husband is 47 years old (48 next month) the big age gap has never been a problem to us as I have always been older than my years and he has always been younger than his. On the 30th June this year he came home from work and told me he was leaving me, We have been together for 13 years married for 5, his reason was he does not love me like he should?? We have a 15 year old son who is not biologically his but he has been his dad since our son was 18 months old.
He has told me he has felt like this for about 15 months and spoke to his mum about 12 months ago which she has now confirmed. I had NO idea about this and it was a total shock.
He moved out the next day into a shared house with 6 other people, 1 bathroom & 1 kitchen, this might not sound weird to some people but my husband is very funny about sharing things with people, for example he would not even share a drink with me!!!! He scrubs the bathroom before he showers, cleans the toilet before he uses it and scrubs the kitchen before he cooks. This is just not him.
He had to change his job last year due to not being able to do manually work anymore so we have dropped our monthly income and money has been tight. But it is even tighter for him now. My husband is rubbish with money always has been.
He chased me for about 6 months before I agreed to date him, and has always adored me.
One thing I am struggling to understand is how he has been this last year, when he was suppose to not love me enough, ie Got my engagement ring mended as a surprise cost him £300.00 which he done extra shifts at work to pay for, he gave it to me a day early as he could not wait to give it to me as he was so excited this was 29th April this year. Beautiful birthday card, which in it he wrote lots of love on your birthday and forever, My birthday was 22nd June, he left me 8 days later!! Sent me a text saying I was the best wife ever this was end of May. I just dont understand, I have asked him about all of these times and all I get back is I was trying to get it back to how it was.
We are still talking and he is desperate to stay friends, he promises there is no one else and I am trying to remain friends because then I have not totally lost him. I have asked if he has any doubts and he says that a little but he knows what he is doing is right.
I am just so confused and dont know what to do I miss him so much, he was the perfect husband and I`ve lost him.
Last edited by susan1949; 08-12-2011 at 12:59 PM.