08-21-2011, 02:16 PM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Newly separated and hating it!
My husband and I have been married for almost 11yrs. On June 20th he dropped the bomb. He doesn't love me anymore and is totally apathetic to me. When he told me the reasons, I was so shocked! He told me that he never felt respected by me, never felt part of the decision making, afraid to buy himself anything, afraid of confrontation with me, felt like he was walking on egg shells, having to choose his words carefully, felt humiliated by me in front of friends and family. I tell him what to do instead of asking. He did not think I trusted him because I would often call him to see when he would be home and where he was.
I love my husband very much. We have 2 amazing boys. I am willing to do anything for this marriage to work. I immediately started working on things. I made sure that he knew how much I respect him, I think before speaking. I have generally improved my communication. I explained why I would call him and ask where he was. I am unable to work and on top of everything I am depressed.. Calling and talking to him was a way to feel connected. Asking where he was or what he was doing was just part of the conversation. I never ment anything by it. I have apologized to him and to anyone else I treated poorly.
I know that I have really hurt him. I want this marriage to work. I have agreed to separation. How do I stop it from progressing to divorce?