Kids schedules, and dating parents
This may be a little long winded but I'm looking for some feedback from divorced parents with kids(3 & 5 years old).
My ex and I are going through a divorce currently. She works retail, so she has a sporadic work schedule. Where as mines a standard M-F 9-5. We have joint custody so I we each have the kids 3-4 days a week. The schedule changes weekly unfortunately. She's been dating for a few months, and I recently have myself also.
On the few days a week that I don't have the kids I've started making plans. I've sat in my apartment by myself for long enough. needless to say when the kids asked if they could stay at Dad's house tonight I had made plans already( did cancel them so the kids could come over like they asked). I was vilified by my ex for blowing off my kids and not putting them first. I've only been seeing this girl for 2 weeks now, so my ex is also throwing that in my face as selfish that I wasn't eager to cancel my plans the second the kids asked. She asked for Divorce and now that its affecting the kids the way I told her it would, she takes the moral high road and hammers on me.
Am I in the wrong here? I feel like the couple days the kids aren't with me if I have plans I shouldn't be expected to always cancel on a whim. I wouldn't expect the same of her. The kids days are scheduled for a reason, If the kids asked about going to moms I just let them know her days coming up shortly. Or that shes working, etc. I don't need to put her on the spot to look bad in front of the kids like she did to me today.
Looking for some input/advice. Thanks!