09-02-2011, 04:43 PM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Re: Why does this have to be hard
Originally Posted by JustAGirl
I've said I wouldn't get married either...so I know what you mean.
My stbexH and I started having problems after my son was born really - he's 10 now. But life happens and we stayed in it. Some good times, some bad. I would say the last 3-4 years, we (and I guess mainly I) haven't been happy. I'm just not happy with a husband that doesn't show love. Maybe I changed, I don't know but all I know is, I tried talking to him....I asked we get some help, I told him MONTHS before leaving I wanted to separate etc...he did nothing. So....it's hard to answer that question. It's been 3-4 years I've been so unhappy, sad and unfullfilled but we've been separated for 7 months...TOMORROW! lol
All I know is:::if a loved one says they "think" you (as a couple) needs something - do everything you can to make that happen. It's about what "they" percieve and if you nip that in the bud, things can get better. Only don't do what mine did and laugh at me. I've been in therapy now since October and although I don't go as much as I did before I left him, it helps talking to someone I can say ANYTHING to and I don't have to worry about hurting them....
And that's the long answer lol
Ah that sucks lostgirl in my case if things would have been brought out if there had been some issues it could and would have been fixed but dating someone else not never a good reason for that. Marriage is a marriage and it takes alot of work and I understand that and was giving it my all but hey stuff happens I guess. Its weird you think you have found that perfect one then they just throw you for a loop.