Re: Why does this have to be hard
I've said I wouldn't get married either...so I know what you mean.
My stbexH and I started having problems after my son was born really - he's 10 now. But life happens and we stayed in it. Some good times, some bad. I would say the last 3-4 years, we (and I guess mainly I) haven't been happy. I'm just not happy with a husband that doesn't show love. Maybe I changed, I don't know but all I know is, I tried talking to him....I asked we get some help, I told him MONTHS before leaving I wanted to separate etc...he did nothing. So....it's hard to answer that question. It's been 3-4 years I've been so unhappy, sad and unfullfilled but we've been separated for 7 months...TOMORROW! lol
All I know is:::if a loved one says they "think" you (as a couple) needs something - do everything you can to make that happen. It's about what "they" percieve and if you nip that in the bud, things can get better. Only don't do what mine did and laugh at me. I've been in therapy now since October and although I don't go as much as I did before I left him, it helps talking to someone I can say ANYTHING to and I don't have to worry about hurting them....
And that's the long answer lol