Re: I'm running blind
So I'm back, I kinda got what I wanted but I now have to live with my consequences. She will be moving back into the house so she can finish the house. We both felt that that was the right decision. I didn't loose my cool at all. I was calm, thanks to you guys giving me a pep talk before she got here. I really appreciate this board because I don't have anyone I can really express my feeling to. I recorded the whole conversation with my iphone. One of the things she said was, "I don't want to live in a mediocre marriage, and If I have to be single until I find GREAT, or maybe I'll be single the rest of my life, then I'm willing to do that, I hope I didn't just jinx myself"
Those words cut very deep, right before she said that she said "that we had something great and everyone was jealous of our Marriage, and everybody envy's and still envy's us because we get along so well" WTF
Then she brings up her cousin and how they have been married for 16 years and love each-other more now than ever. So it's almost like everything she wants is something I can't give her, She says were missing something.
She's not willing to go to counseling she done with counselors.
There is a quick update.
BTW Mediocre??? I know I brought this up before, but I don't know how may other people out there she will be able to find that will be able to take her to all the places I have been able to take her. Costa Rica, Rome, Turkey, Switzerland, Italy , France, Monte Carlo, Spain, Every Island in the Caribbean, Cozumel, Cancun, countless times to Vail, Whistler BC, Aspen, ECT. Apparently I'm one mediocre guy.
I know trips don't make a marriage, but DAMN mediocre????
Long Story short, I will be moving into my brothers house, not really wanting to though. But at least I don't have to pay a $3,000 a month mortgage. She can afford it so I'm not really worried about that. Her pride won't be able to come to me for money.
What do you guys think. Sorry it took long to write back I've been in deep thought. I really appreciate the support from you guys before she got here. It was a life saver.