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post #181 of 188 (permalink) Old 08-08-2016, 08:26 PM Thread Starter
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Wife loves vacations. She likes the idea of kids on vacation with parents. In a somewhat unusual act, she laid out the particulars. We want to have 3-4 events in August as a piecemeal "vacation". We both are attending each and kids are welcome at all. If they don't wish to come, too bad.

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FWIW, none of her kids were interested in any of it.

She got frustrated, but you can't make people "do" anything.

People do what they wish to do.

People don't do what they don't wish to do.

If my stepchildren really don't wish to vacation with me? I'm all good with that.

(BTW, none of them are under 20)
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More cost-effective if they not attend. Additional alone time with W.

Unless..... kids not going... effects her decision to go. Or spend one on one time

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B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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More cost-effective if they not attend. Additional alone time with W.

Unless..... kids not going... effects her decision to go. Or spend one on one time
Their non-attendance saves me beaucoup dollars.

It's a beautiful thing.

THEY'RE the bad guys.

Not that there will "ever" be an admission. But, there won't be any follow-up attempts.

Just as good.
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Their non-attendance saves me beaucoup dollars.



It's a beautiful thing.



THEY'RE the bad guys.



Not that there will "ever" be an admission. But, there won't be any follow-up attempts.



Just as good.


Not bad guys.

I know you mean in her eyes. Which benefits you.

Just their choice.

Their resentment to you goes back years.

Too much pushing?

They're adults.

Mom has her life. They have theirs.

They can choose when to take part and when not to.


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Yet when their wants and expectations of her.... correlate to a sheet storm with you....

She's my mommy.... you're not..... sound familiar?

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Yet when their wants and expectations of her.... correlate to a sheet storm with you....

She's my mommy.... you're not..... sound familiar?


Yeah, so I've heard.

Everyone is responsible for their own lives.

If she caves to that it's on her.

If a man puts up with it it's on him.

Doesn't matter what the "kids" do or don't do.


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Yeah, so I've heard.

Everyone is responsible for their own lives.

If she caves to that it's on her.

If a man puts up with it it's on him.

Doesn't matter what the "kids" do or don't do.


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