Re: The Toolkit of the Confident Man
It's the most intensely interesting thing I've ever encountered. Let me give you a bit more of the 50,000 foot view.
I'm a kraut. My passion is battlefield strategy. Many will understand my motives from from that admission. I look for every opportunity to employ strategy to solve problems, motivate others, and "win" - however I define it.
I was horrified to discover that the woman who was going to "save me" (codependence in full bloom) was actually determined to get me into a power struggle.
Then, some close friends (here) gave me the information necessary to crack the code. I've had a marriage where my partner didn't pull her weight and had no idea what I was about. But, she doted on me like I was God Himself. I certainly wasn't. And, in retrospect, that was likely the "easy way" out for her.
This interests me. At times it's tiresome. But, if you remind yourself that the "parts" of her that rebel are very young and have never had anyone truly care for them, it makes it better.
You take the great and manage the bad.
And, you come out ok.