Sham, how does your new friend feel about your situation? She must know of the potential "rebound", or just simply the need for time to continue healing.
I dont believe you'd ever lead her on, but honest discussion with her is good, whether or not you step up your relationship. Of course, if she wrote a blog about you, in this day and age, you must be in !
She's 31. She knows about where I'm at...seems to understand the implications, probably a little hesitant though, knowing that no matter how I act I'm probably gonna be a wreck for a while. She's recently out of a 2-yr relationship I think.
Though I think the fact that the D will be final in a week or two is helpful. But just having fun, so what's the harm...
Drinks w girl #2 tonight (loosely based on work). Busy day up til then. I'm gonna need some Red Bull or something...
Great day, all. Spent the afternoon with waitress, new and exciting. Gave her a chance to ask anything she wants about my situation, and we had a great talk. Then went back to just having fun. I would say "wish I'd detached and done this long ago", but I think it had to run it's course. And I know I'm not out of the woods yet, gonna take some time. Went for a crisp 5-mile jog after dinner. Heck of a nice day. Can't wait to be signed off with the W. Hopefully this week!
Now if the Cards can just pull it out tonight I'd call it a perfect day. Haven't had one of those since April. Posted via Mobile Device
Great day, all. Spent the afternoon with waitress, new and exciting. Gave her a chance to ask anything she wants about my situation, and we had a great talk. Then went back to just having fun. I would say "wish I'd detached and done this long ago", but I think it had to run it's course. And I know I'm not out of the woods yet, gonna take some time. Went for a crisp 5-mile jog after dinner. Heck of a nice day. Can't wait to be signed off with the W. Hopefully this week!
Now if the Cards can just pull it out tonight I'd call it a perfect day. Haven't had one of those since April. Posted via Mobile Device
Great day, all. Spent the afternoon with waitress, new and exciting. Gave her a chance to ask anything she wants about my situation, and we had a great talk. Then went back to just having fun. I would say "wish I'd detached and done this long ago", but I think it had to run it's course. And I know I'm not out of the woods yet, gonna take some time. Went for a crisp 5-mile jog after dinner. Heck of a nice day. Can't wait to be signed off with the W. Hopefully this week!
Now if the Cards can just pull it out tonight I'd call it a perfect day. Haven't had one of those since April. Posted via Mobile Device
Outstanding Sham, There may be hope for the world yet
Great day, all. Spent the afternoon with waitress, new and exciting. Gave her a chance to ask anything she wants about my situation, and we had a great talk. Then went back to just having fun. I would say "wish I'd detached and done this long ago", but I think it had to run it's course. And I know I'm not out of the woods yet, gonna take some time. Went for a crisp 5-mile jog after dinner. Heck of a nice day. Can't wait to be signed off with the W. Hopefully this week!
Now if the Cards can just pull it out tonight I'd call it a perfect day. Haven't had one of those since April. Posted via Mobile Device
Excellent progress Sham!
oh, and to respond to earlier posters.... do NOT, under any circumstances sleep with the STBX .... I made that mistake, just once (long story), and dodged a bullet with it. The short version is that I was Stupid with a capital S and fell for the stuff coming from her mouth.
oh, and to respond to earlier posters.... do NOT, under any circumstances sleep with the STBX .... I made that mistake, just once (long story), and dodged a bullet with it. The short version is that I was Stupid with a capital S and fell for the stuff coming from her mouth.
I would agree with this overall. I think Sham was putting himself through torture continuing with the "hang-out" relationship that was developing.
My advice at the time was to go ahead and get sex from her if he was going over, hanging out with her and pseudo-flirting with her anyway.
Sham would be much better off eliminating all socializing with STBX and focusing on new women. That said, if he was putting himself through the pain of dealing with STBX socially, he may as well have gone ahead and done the deed. Now, with that aspect seemingly out of the picture, the way forward becomes much more clear now.
hey sham,
thanks so much for your story.
timing of my spouses affair was similiar to yours,(datewise) but much more involved and torrid.
just found out recently and it is certainly a life changing event.
good luck to us and all others in this type of situation.
watching C Lo Greenes forget u(uncensored version) on youtube.
makes me feel better for some reason.. :>)
octnine
W just texted she misses the pups. Then asked if I wanted to come over and watch old sitcoms, she has wine and salmon.
I told her "Sorry, no can do. Sounds like a heck of a party though, enjoy."
Man that felt good. Because I didn't even consider it. It was hard to resist adding any zingers ("Don't worry, I'm sure someday you'll find someone else to hang with"...or "That would be awesome! Except you cheated on me and I'm divorcing your ass.")
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Re: Go time...and time to go. Sucks... 
