She basically gets her stuff, and she gets to go out and start a new life. Pretty much exactly what she wanted, except for the dogs and not being able to pawn the house off on me. (her plan was to ask me to buy it) Posted via Mobile Device
Got the papers. First draft, a few details to fill in. Looking at Monday for a revised draft which I can give to W for review.
I called her for the details, she gave me them. Then started asking why it's fair that she has to take half the debt when I make more money. She said "I've only made $----- this year!". I said, "Well, I'm sorry, that's uncontested divorce.". Told her that's what her lawyer is for, if she wants to go for stuff like that it won't be coming from me. She got pissed and hung up. Then texts "Sorry I hung up.". Then 20 minutes later texts and asks if I wanna watch the game (sorry, if the "pups" wanna watch the game). Told her I can't, Go Cards.
I have a date tonight. We'll be watching the game.
**EDIT: To clarify, my date is NOT w stbxw. Posted via Mobile Device
Shaggy, she was looking into transferring her retirement accounts to a new rep that had been recommended by a friend, to split off from "our guy". She never switched it over. Posted via Mobile Device
I'm so glad you're feeling strong and moving forward. Please update us on your date. I hope you enjoy yourself immensely.
I gotta say... I feel sorry for your wife. 37 years old, twice divorced, no house, a second hand car, a mountain of debt... Her life is going down the tubes and you're flourishing. I hate to see someone self-destruct, but hopefully someday she'll try to get her life back in order.
Have fun tonight. Go Cards. I'll root just for you - not paying attention to the WS at all.
She tries to push your buttons, sees that she can't, hangs up angrily, then apologizes. Seems to me that your stbx somewhat reluctantly (perhaps strongly advised by her lawyer) realized that she can't be a b**ch-she MUST play nice.
Oct - so sorry to hear you've been dealing with this too. Hope you're seeing some light at the end of the tunnel.
I was all over that song too. I'd also recommend 25 to Life by Eminem (uncensored, of course), heck of a release for me. Posted via Mobile Device
thanks for the eminem.(realized it was his ode to hip-hop and not his lady although some of it is applicable to my stbxw)
my deal is more complex than yours.
30+ years
kids
biz interests
luckily i found undisputable proof which even she could not try to deny. but she definately was able to minimize, throw blame to me , and rug sweep.
even before i found this thread, i realized that divorce was my ONLY option since i have put up with nonsense way beyond what a person should allow.(for the kids earlier in relationship) now i have zero trust. time to man up.
no one said it would be EZ!!!
i am following your journey and wish you the best of luck. i will utilize your experiences when appropriate(it is amazing the similiarities amongst the CS's actions and BS's emotions)
onward and upward my friend
octnine...waiting for settlement agreement/emergency divorce
As much as it truly does make me feel pain in the moment, I can't respond. WAY too little, WAY too late. I don't feel pain for my loss (had plenty of time to do that since June), I feel pain for her and what she's processing now, what's she's lost. She is lonely and regretting her actions. And it is her fault. And I feel no real love for her now, only a reminiscent ache...sorry W. You did this. Really.
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Got the papers. First draft, a few details to fill in. Looking at Monday for a revised draft which I can give to W for review.
I called her for the details, she gave me them. Then started asking why it's fair that she has to take half the debt when I make more money. She said "I've only made $----- this year!". I said, "Well, I'm sorry, that's uncontested divorce.". Told her that's what her lawyer is for, if she wants to go for stuff like that it won't be coming from me. She got pissed and hung up. Then texts "Sorry I hung up.". Then 20 minutes later texts and asks if I wanna watch the game (sorry, if the "pups" wanna watch the game). Told her I can't, Go Cards.
I have a date tonight. We'll be watching the game.
Hello Sham, just made an account to make this post. Talk about life going full circle. i was feeling sorry for you all this while while she was going about not giving a f@%k. You were waiting on her to apologize and now you don't even care. Now I feel bad for her. I think she is beginning to realize her actions. The OM was real scum though. he f%$ked over literally and emotionally. But that is Karma for you. Maybe you should let her know that she should stop acting that you are still together(as much as it stings)
Hello Sham, just made an account to make this post. Talk about life going full circle. i was feeling sorry for you all this while while she was going about not giving a f@%k. You were waiting on her to apologize and now you don't even care. Now I feel bad for her. I think she is beginning to realize her actions. The OM was real scum though. he f%$ked over literally and emotionally. But that is Karma for you. Maybe you should let her know that she should stop acting that you are still together(as much as it stings)
I wouldn't feel sorry for her, simply because most likely as she was texting that "I'm sorry", she was texting her new OM2 all kinds of lovey dovey things. She's a player, and is the type that won't be without another man for very long.
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Re: Go time...and time to go. Sucks... 
