Re: Go time...and time to go. Sucks...
Just talked to W about bills. Kept it short, didn't get into any kind of arrangement or agree to anything. I did tell her that what we can't do is just add up all the bills and and each put 50% in a joint account, as 50% of the bills are not necessarily mine. And that I want to make it as easy as possible, but we won't come to a quick 5 minute solution by just cutting everything down the middle right now over the phone.
I told her I'd pay CCs in my name, she pays CCs in her name, the one CC that was joint until 2 weeks ago I'll pay half, as that debt is all mine too. She said "Well the credit cards have household stuff on them, groceries, gas, and stuff...why are those separate?" I told her that each of us had put those things on our own CCs, so those are each our own responsibility. She said, "Whatever. Fine."
Told her I'd be willing to pay half of the utilities this month, as I lived in the house for the period those bills were due for. Asked her to get them transferred over to her name, and that if I needed to call them to let me know.
I asked her to send me an email with the bills listed out, I'd look it over and get back to her with what I will do. She agreed.
At no point did she freak out, and I was George Clooney, as far as I'm concerned. I could tell she wanted to jump through the phone and strangle me though, could just sense the tension. Sucks talking about bills when you're *happily married*, let alone when you're divorcing and neither person wants to deal with the other on this stuff.
If this email interchange and temporary bill agreement goes amicably, then good. She'll have the short end of the stick, but if she can accept that without exploding and spewing venom at me then we'll handle it ourselves. If not, I'll tell her "I'm not going to argue about this, we're not enemies, this is not war, but if we can't agree to simple things like this we'll have to let our attorneys handle it, and that will just add expenses for both of us."